[Fuzzybear]

... just why....

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I'm wondering why more people don't take what people say at face value?
Something recently has made me think of this..... I was going to delete this post but of course I can't
I'm thinking its often abuse in our past that makes us so suspicious and distrusting of others... I know for me it is sometimes.
I think part of recovery sometimes is giving others the benefit of the doubt more, although that can go wrong too
Whatever.

Wish wish wish I could delete this.
But starting lots of posts and deleting is wrong too....

Such a good post! Please don't delete.

It think it might be an internet thing aswell. Nobody can see me and can't see my facial expressions, don't know the real me. I always try to post supportively and with good intentions but sometimes others read something else into it. There's not a malicious bone in my body, honest but how to convey that over the internet? I don't know.

Then there are those that have been hurt very badly in the past and because of that they assume the worst in people straight away. Learning to trust is difficult.

I don't know what the answers are, other than for you to be YOU and for me to be ME.

Hugs

[KathyM]

I can't take what people say at face value because actions speak louder than words. Pretty words of love and support mean nothing to me if their actions speak differently.

I've known too many liars and hypocrites and have been hurt too many times to give strangers the benefit of the doubt.

I've slipped up on occasion with my distrust and judgment of friendly support. However, those who are sincere have the ability to explain their words and actions to me. It makes me love them even more. Those who are not sincere or who have hidden agendas typically stumble over their words, turn their backs on me, or lash out with a vengeance. It leaves my empty heart filled with rage.

[lynn P.]

(((Fuzzy))) - I'm sorry you're sad and drawn into this. No one feels negativity towards you. I wish there weren't problems too, but it happens sometimes unfortunately.
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[Fuzzybear]

Thanks to all who have replied. I wasn't hoping to create stress and upset, we all have too much of that. Thanks for expressing your opinions.

[lynn P.]

(((Fuzzy))) - I know you would never want to hurt anyone dear lady.

[Rohag]

[I sense I'm missing some critical context. All I know is that dear Fuzzybear is in distress. I cannot help but want to join my voice to others who seek to affirm and comfort her.

- Rohag, the Exceedingly Naïve]

[Rhapsody]

[trance]

because...

[turquoisesea]

Fuzzy, I feel the same way so much of the time. Hugs to you - don't be afraid to share with us, I know it's hard to trust but this place is pretty safe *hugs*