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Old Aug 29, 2011, 08:16 AM
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My husband and i have been married for 2 years and together for 5. He has a very violent and controlling nature which wasn't very extreme until we married. Ever since we started living together as married couple he became violent and controlling. He expects me to clean and cook. The house must be spotless otherwise he will argue with me for ages about it and if i talk back he will become violent. When we go out he is so controlling for example. We went to the museum today and i wanted to look at something a few metres away. He cracked it and said you have to stay within one metre of me you are not allowed to walk away. Also in public when there are other guys around i have to always look down otherwise he will get mad and say i'm looking at other men. When he comes home from work i have to have his dinner ready perfectly on time otherwise he beats me horribly. For example.. last night he got home at 5 and his dinner wasn't going to be ready until 6. He started yelling at me "you effing ***** etc (add more profanities here!). Then he dragged me to the kitchen and smashed my head into the kitchen cabinet and kept punching me in the head, arms, back pretty much all over my body.. then he dragged me to the room and locked me in the room and told me to sit there for an hour. He hits, kicks, punchs, drags me by the hair, spits on me, rapes me... etc weekly.. it's horrible, i feel terrible.


I married him because i thought he was a wonderful person, he has his own business as a painter and i'm halfway through my bachelors degree.. we have a one year old son together.. who doens't witness the violence because his father only abuses me when he's sleeping.. not that that makes it ok. To everyone around us we're a normal great married couple.. happy But behind closed doors, he's a monster. I can't tell anyone because i don't think they would believe me. I don't know what to do. I don't want my son around this. I want to get out. I'm sick and tired of being treated like crap


It helped venting, so thanks for listening

Last edited by wanttoheal; Aug 29, 2011 at 09:47 AM. Reason: added trigger icon

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Old Aug 29, 2011, 06:28 PM
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Take your son and GET OUT !!! Go stay at friends, family or a shelter, but you MUST GET OUT. This madman could KILL you!

You also HAVE to get a restraining order against him. You don't want him coming to wherever you end up. He's got to be kept away from you and your son.

PLEASE -- leave today!! You're not in a marriage --- you're married to an evil dictator! You and your son deserve safety -- leave now!

God bless and let us know what happens. Prayers coming your way. Hugs, Lee
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Old Aug 29, 2011, 11:58 PM
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Please get help. The bruises on your body alone would alert any ER staff. There should be a number on my signature line. Let me know if you are unable to see it.

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