[Chuck54]

I feel like I'm trapped in a very bad relationship. My wife constantly tells me that I'm doing things wrong and she tells me I've forgotten things we've talked about. She's very curt when telling me so. She has totality emasculated me and we have no intimacy in our relationship.
My sons and grandkids all live in Savannah Georgia and desperately want to be with them. Yet every time I visit them I alienate them for one reason or another. I feel like they don't want me around and NEVER call me.
I used to be the life of the party but now don't want to go anywhere. I often stay home and wind up sitting in the dark crying. I'v been on disability for 4 years and have had 14 surgical procedures since moving to Wisconsin in 2001.
I have no sex life what so ever but was a very very active sexual person.
I feel totality unwanted. Can anyone help ???

[Belle1979]

Have you talked with a professional about how you are feeling? Therapy sounds like a good option for you if you can x

[paddym22]

You know when I get depressed everything goes out the window, everything seems to be a huge mountain to get over. So much so that I just cannot trust my own judgement. Belle is right, now would be a good time to talk to a professional to reason out how you are feeling before making any major decisions. Intimacy and depression do not sit well together in my experience, and I know that for me, far away hills always seem greener.

There is a forum here Sexual and gender issues which is a good place to post about intimacy issues, you should get some good feedback there, it is quite frank and open.

Keep posting and good luck, but if you are not getting help at the moment do try and seek it out if you can.

Good luck in getting this resolved, Chuck54.