Been dating someone for around half a year.

I have two kids (Torin and Evan, they'll be three years old this December). They live with their mum, Kate- her and I are on good terms, and best friends, I see them on a regular basis.

He knows I have kids, but he's never met them, but I know he wants to- he's becoming a part of my life and they're a big part of my life, so he probably should. I've spoken briefly about it with Kate, and she approves of him and seems fine with the idea of arranging something.

But, on the other hand, I don't know if I am. The idea freaks me out. Is it moving too fast, is it overstepping some sort of boundary, is it ridiculous to have him meet them, what happens if he's terrible with kids, etc.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Thanks.

[shaggy dog]

Fenrir, you sound like a good parent that has Torin's and Evan's best interest in mind. It seems natural that you would want such important people in your life to all get along together. Good luck. shaggy

[Typo]

First off big hugs (((((((((((((((Fenrir)))))))))))))))

I think it would be a good idea to set up something, if y'all have been together this long, I think now is the point where you would want to see how he interacts with children, espically your children. Maybe something small and not to extensive time wise, like a day at the park.

It's scary when we let people (espically romantic partners) into closer aspects of our lives, and it seems like it is always a panic stricken thing to let them get involved in our familes, but I am sure it will go well and do it as it feels comfy to you hun. I don't think it's moving to fast, or over steping any boundaries. I think you should take comfort in the fact Kate approves of him and is okay with it.

Your a great dad Fenrir, I'm sure things will work out, let us all know how it goes! I'm always rootin for ya!

Best wishes and lots of love
Typo aka Silversparrow

Fenrir, what has to happen to make you comfortable with the meeting?