[bridgie]

I finally ended a relationship that had me so stressed out for months that I was sick and cldnt eat (lost 30 lbs) good part but also a lltl too many lbs) anyway the day it was over his mother called me and I told her we were thru and I was doing ok. The crazy thing right after that I checked my facebook and I had a message from my sons father(shom haven't heard from in 4 yrs) (long back story won't get into too much). It freaked me out then he started saying he wanted me back but he is married and can't get divorced yet but we cld work out our issues while waiting. I at first was in shock ddnt know what to think and why was he contacting me now of all the days. After a few days messaging I cldnt take what he was saying anymore. All the same stuff he always says and never followed thru plus he is married and so I blew up and let everything out all of it. Now that he is gone for good(I hope) how do you forgive someone for all the past hurt and how do I forgive myself for being so mean when I let everything out and if I don't forgive him and myself how am I to have a new beginning and start fresh with life.

Hello, bridgie. Forgiveness is a process: //www.commonsensepsychology.com/forgiveness.php
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/1752
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/4839
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/4948
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sel...9/METHOD=print

You have been through a lot, bridgie. May you find the path to peace.

[bridgie]

Thank you byzantine for all the great links. It will take me a ltl to get to them as this is a quick check before work. So after work have time to get to them more thoroughly