[marjan]

I absolutely don't see any chemistry with him and I just had one date....I made it really short....but he called me last night and texted me....I haven't answered him back yet...and I didn't answer the phone....
I don't like to leave people up the air....Do you think it's good to text him saying I don't see the Chemistry between us and good luck?
I really don't see any points of friendship even....
What should I do?

thanks
Marjan

Tell him you are flattered but you do not see a relationship with him happening.

[Perna]

I would lie and say you enjoyed your date but have been dating others too, and am sorry, but don't have the time?

Just text him and tell him. You're going to hurt his feelings whether you reply or don't. If it were the other way around, wouldn't you rather he just tell you that he doesn't see the chemistry rather than you waiting by the phone? He's probably wondering what he said or did wrong.

[Naturefreak]

Originally Posted by marjan

I absolutely don't see any chemistry with him and I just had one date....I made it really short....but he called me last night and texted me....I haven't answered him back yet...and I didn't answer the phone....
I don't like to leave people up the air....Do you think it's good to text him saying I don't see the Chemistry between us and good luck?
I really don't see any points of friendship even....
What should I do?

thanks
Marjan

What you want to do.

[marjan]

Thanks my PC friends for your inputs....
well....if I were him and not getting an answer back to my text or phone, then I knew the guy is not into me....and I would not call him everyday....that's the dating is for....for god sake it's online dating....and it was just one quick date....we had just ice cream and I left very early....he should understand it I guess....
What I don't get it is that I'm a woman and I'm so okay with rejection....but guys are taking it very hard....for example, one guy has winked on me and I said "no"....he emailed me back saying "don't even bother....I didn't know you are a divorcee and It's too complicated"....wow....I didn't reply him back and it didn't bother me....
that's the whole point....if I answer back or not, the guy would not like it....both scenarios have bad results....
I think I will text him and tell him the truth politely....but not today, because I left my cell at my sister's home....then I'll do it tomorrow....

Thanks again
love you all
Marjan

[Belle1979]

Just be honest

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by Belle1979

Just be honest

Better to be honest now than regret it later.

[seeker1950]

Online dating can get complicated. People have expectations and size each other up on the first date. One may think it will continue; the other not! I don't date anymore, but when I was meeting men this way, it was stressful! One memorable first (and only) date from an online meeting, was at a restaurant where the guy cried over his surf and turf about his ex girlfriend leaving him. I ended the date politely, and he sent several furious emails, trying to scare me by saying he was "cutting up a body in his bathtub."
Were I in the mindset to meet men thru online dating sites, I'd be very cautious, first of all, and second, not hesitate to cut it short if you feel no chemistry! Be honest, and listen to your inner voice. Don't be pressured by the fear of disappointing or hurting someone after one date!
Patty

[marjan]

Thanks everybody.....

Thanks Patty....you made me laugh....OMG...there are real crazy people out there....

Well....this guy didn't call me today....and honesty, I was so busy that I didn't have time to text him even.....in the other hand, what's the point....either way, he would not like it.....I don't know what to tell him really....and I don't want to put effort and energy on that....I think he got to understand it that it's online dating and it was just one date....I didn't stay even half an hour with him, that explain a lot I guess....

I think next time, I would not give up my phone number before the first date....yes....I will go for a date and if I like the guy, then I will give him my number....what's the point of giving them my number and then I don't know what to say!!!!

well...if he calls or texts me again, then I will tell him "sorry, you are a great person, but I don't think the necessary Chemistry is between us!"....that's it....if he likes to hear that then I will tell him, but I will wait for another action from him....if he doesn't call me, it means he got my silence message

I'm so tired....I'll go to bed now....
thanks again
Marjan

[Shangrala]

If push comes to shove, you can always block his #.....

It might be a safe practice to not give out your phone # at first. Not until after a few successful dates with the same person. An email should be more than enough to suffice in the beginning, (you never know who they REALLY are).
Your safety is primary...

Shangrala

[marjan]

Originally Posted by Shangrala

If push comes to shove, you can always block his #.....

It might be a safe practice to not give out your phone # at first. Not until after a few successful dates with the same person. An email should be more than enough to suffice in the beginning, (you never know who they REALLY are).
Your safety is primary...

Shangrala

Thanks Shangrala....lessen learned....I would not give up my phone number anymore....I'm still learning all these.....