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Old Jul 01, 2010, 07:10 PM
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OK, so I want to first start off by apologizing to all the guys that read this. This may sound pathetic. Here it goes:

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about 6-7 months ago. I thought I was completely going to get over it when I saw her car parked outside a supermarket one day. Ever since then I've been bummed out. Yesterday I get a call from this girl I met through a friend asking me if I want to go out for drinks over the weekend, so instantly I say Yes. You would think I would be happy & excited about it but instead I find myself a bit sad. It's strange but I almost feel it's wrong to go out with her. I'm not really sure why, maybe because of my ex.

What are these feelings all about, and what do I do about them?

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Old Jul 01, 2010, 11:44 PM
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OK, so I want to first start off by apologizing to all the guys that read this. This may sound pathetic. Here it goes:

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about 6-7 months ago. I thought I was completely going to get over it when I saw her car parked outside a supermarket one day. Ever since then I've been bummed out. Yesterday I get a call from this girl I met through a friend asking me if I want to go out for drinks over the weekend, so instantly I say Yes. You would think I would be happy & excited about it but instead I find myself a bit sad. It's strange but I almost feel it's wrong to go out with her. I'm not really sure why, maybe because of my ex.

What are these feelings all about, and what do I do about them?
It takes time to heal, time to move forward and time to start again. Felling bummed after seeing your ex's car is a natural feeling.
Go on the date and see where it takes you, if nothing more it's a nice night out and time to relax with a new friend
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Old Jul 02, 2010, 11:07 AM
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Do what you feel. There is no shame in how you feel. If you don't want to go out on the date then don't. There are plenty of women out there and when you're ready to date they will be there.

What is it about your ex that you haven't been able to let go? was it a mutual break-up?
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Old Jul 03, 2010, 02:35 AM
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I agree with Belle & jenkins there are no rules when it comes to grieving the loss of someone you love. Just pay the girl you are going out for drinks with, the courtesy of your attention even if it's only friendly attention; don't let her feel as if you don't know she's there,

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Old Jul 03, 2010, 01:12 PM
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I hope you go on the date with positive attitude. Who knows?
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Old Jul 05, 2010, 09:11 PM
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i think evereyone else has the idea. go out have a good time it wont cant hurt. Some relationships take awhile to get over not sure how long you were together or anything and from my own experience i take awhile to get over people take time to get back to myself for a bit figure out who i am single just time to go through the feelings is all you can do really. good luck
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