[Brokenrestartbutton]

Am I in denial about my situation or what's up?

First let me clarify, he is not "my guy" and I am not "his girl." I guess some would call us FWB, but it is so much more then that. At times it's very confusing, though knowing that I am not ready for a relationship other then friendship where there are no real commitments or strings attached, sometimes I want it so much!

We talk daily, more like twice a day and have rarely been apart since we met in January. The longest time apart was 2 weeks when I flew back to east to visit, however even then we talked almost daily. We rarely argue, the occasional spat about not being in a relationship.

He tells me "take all the bad thoughts out" that it's not that I am not good enough or that he doesn't have feelings for me. It's just that he doesn't want to rush and doesn't want to hurt me. I feel that his words are genuine.

He is very open-minded. There is nothing that we can't discuss. I've gone out on dates and tells me he cares, but he doesn't mind since neither of us is fully ready to be in a committed relationship.

I have since stopped seeing other people, realizing it's nearly pointless if I'm not ready to commit to anyone, but subconsciously maybe I've done so as a commitment to him?

I've called him balling and he listens. When I get angry he knows how to calm me down, never in my life have I met anyone who stop my tirades dead in their tracks. I am often laughing by the time we are through with our conversation. When ever a crisis arises he is the first to heed the call. He offers me what help he can, financially, emotionally, physically. He gave me a kitten so that I could feel less lonely. In my eyes he is perfect. I love him very much, feel for him more then anyone I've met in my life (including my ex husband who I was with for 10 years). When we are together we can't stop touching, even if it's holding hands and it is mutual.

Is it obsession? True love? Lust? I don't know.

[Belle1979]

Sounds like you have a good guy there. Is there a need to put a label on it? It all sounds very 'relationship' like to me.. even if you aren't calling it that.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Sounds like you have something most people search for and never find, so forget the label and the relationship thing just enjoy each day as it comes and be grateful for it.

You sound like you have a man exactly like my partner...no pressure, no stress just a really comfy friendship.I don't want in a relationship more than I have, so I don't want to put the kaibash on it by wanting more than perfect...that would be silly

[Brokenrestartbutton]

Thank you for your replies!
I guess what bothers me the about it is I'm used to jumping in feet first into EVERYTHING and this easy going thing is somewhat confusing. Does that makes sense?

I do believe you are both right, he is awesome and I must remind myself that a label is not important.