[TORNUP]

I've been married for 2 years now, and my husband works overseas. He is home 4 months out of the year and i try to travel to see him once or twice per year. This is his 4th marriage and my 2nd. He has two grown boys and I have a 12 yr old that i share custody with my ex. While we were dating things couldn't have been better... and we both knew what to expect as we're not new at this. He has little contact with his first wife (the mother of his boys), and little contact with his 2nd/3rd wife (he married her twice)... anyhow i recently put a webwatcher on his laptop as i had suspected he was chatting with her again... and my suspicions are true. I am absolutely ripped apart as he continues to lie to me and tell me he has little or no contact. I can't exactly say - i see all you do on your laptop and do feel somewhat guilty for putting it on there. I do not know what to do.... I love this man, but i can not continue in this relationship if he chooses to break trust issues with me and cheat on me with his ex wife. I am thinking maybe i should confront this ex and she will definitley spill the beans to me.... i know that, as she's threated him with that in IM's and emails to him. Do i just let thi continue and see how it plays out or confront him????
TORN UP INSIDE AND OUT

[Belle1979]

Seems to me that you followed yor gut instinct in putting the webwatcher n his laptop.. so I'd go with your gut feelings in confronting him.
What is the point of a relationship when the other half is cheating - why do people do this?

[Yoda]

I can't tell you what you should do but if I were in a similar situation I would hire a divorce attorney.

[lynn P.]

((TORNUP)) - this is a terrible position you're in and I know how you feel. When you mentioned overseas it made me wonder - does your husband belong to a religion that allows more than one wife?? I agree you should confront him.