[lostinlove1973]

I am a 37 year old recovering addict. I just completed detox from methadone, which I used to detox from oxycontin. The love of my life was unable to detox herself from methadone the way that I did and I checked her into rehab last week. She was originally gonna be there for 10 days and now they are keeping her till October 19!!!!! The problem that I have is trusting or having faith in the strength of relationships has always been hard for me. I met her 6 years ago, at an inpatient rehab, and being who I am, I cant help but think that the same thing is happening now !!! She and I have built a pretty good life together. We have our ups and downs like everyone else, but I love her with all my heart and she loves me. I am just afraid that some guy there will talk his way into her heart and leave me out in the wilderness!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!

[Perna]

Hi, lostinlove, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). Instead of thinking with your emotions, do some thinking with common sense and take your feeling thoughts to their logical conclusions? If she can be "stolen" from you, how real has the relationship been in the last six years? Do you want to continue to build a life with someone who can/could be stolen?

Are you not able to visit her at all, help encourage her while she's in rehab? It doesn't sound like an easy process if she is staying longer; I don't think she'll be thinking about making new love connections working/hurting so bad in order to get back to you and her good life?

[shezbut]

Hello lostinlove1973 and to Psych Central,

Getting off methadone (and other drugs) isn't easy at all. In my opinion, the key is actually being ready to commit to getting off the drug. If your gf isn't ready ~ and if she isn't real willing to go through the withdrawals, chances are very slim that she can do it.

I can understand your fear of your girl meeting and connecting with another guy while in treatment. I'd would recommend that you visit her regularly, showing your support at every visit. She'll learn that you're always there for her. That will be very reassurring to her. Do know that people in rehab can be very angry and mean during detox. It does hurt!! If your gf does this to you during a visit, tell her that it does hurt & leave. As the detox goes on, she should become more kind and appreciative of your support and love.

It takes time. Don't give in to emotional outbursts & lose it. Just back off a bit ~ and keep going to show that you do care. Best wishes to you both!

[wiptcrm]

wow I am so sorry to hear how difficult things feel for you and I just fully hope that you can heal.In the meantime...I see that I'm not the only one who cares how you feel.ya know?please care for your basic needs in this time of low. wiptcrm