[knock123]

Well when i was younger my dad was always cheating on his gf with all his ex's or he will find a new one to cheat on his current with and i put up with that for 16 years i ended up moving out of my dads and now im back becuz i have no where else to go but thats not the problem.... i was sitting on the couch with him while he was watching tv and i was writing some stuff and he turns to me and says hes frusterated and i asked him why and he told me oh because of his gf, his ex, and his other ex from befor.... and when i heard him say that i just got so angry frusterated and upset.... like i was gonna have an emotional breakdown because im sick and tired of haveing to watch him cheat and lie to every woman he is with! all htese woman dont deserve to be played around with like this!! hes been doing this for ever he has never stopped and my little sister sees him do this and now shes starting to do things similar to him and i dont know what to do becaus ei try to talk to her about it and she thinks im giving her **** for it and she tells me she doesnt want to talk about it i just dont know what to do about this lik ei hate seeing my dad do this to all the woman and i want to tell his recent girlfriend but i dont want to ruin his life as well as my sisters so im kindof in a perdicament where there realy is no good solution

Hello, knock123. Yes, it is really unfortunate your sister appears to be following in your father's footsteps.

[Warrioress]

You love your dad and your sister and you don't want to hurt them by betraying them to their partners, but the truth is that what they are doing is WRONG and UNFAIR and if you have the ability to stop them and your conscience tells you that you should, there's nothing else for it. You should. However, if you can't help and if what you say will make no change, imho the best thing you can do is to learn not to care, which of course is not easy :s

[Perna]

It sounds to me like you are spending too much energy and emotion on your father and sister's lives instead of your own. Work on getting a job and moving out again and running your own life. Other people make their own choices and they're often not ours and we often don't agree with them but we can tell them that we don't agree but that's about it. It's their lives!

[jenkins09]

Your dad has major boundary issues. I agree with Perna, get some money together, and find your own place. Tell your dad to not discuss this with you again.

[bridgie]

i have to agree that your father crossed a boundary talking to you about his issues. but since that line was crossed i suppose you could always talk to your father about how you feel about the situation and how you see it affecting your sister. after you get it all out in the open it is up to him to take care of his business and also to try and help your sister. it will be out of your hands. i also agree that getting back out on your own will help. being supportive to family while not being in the midst is easier and healthier. it will give you time and space to focus on you and then you can decide how much you want to concern yourself with the father and sisters situation.