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I am bipolar. I've been out with this girl four times. I got kicked out of her house twice out of the four times I've been with her. My mood changes are the culprit. I started all of my meds again about a month ago. I just smoothed things over with her after she threw me out of the house last night. I don't know why she keeps taking me back. She can do a lot better than me. Lately I've been having frequent friendship/family relationship issues. I would like to continue seeing her, but I don't think it's the right thing. I would rather have her be happy with someone else than be with me and risk more anguish. What do I do? Should I tell her that I am bipolar and see what her reaction is? Should I tell her that I am bipolar and that I can't handle a relationship right now? I don't know what to do. I would like to continue seeing her, but I really think it's best for the both of us if we don't.
As a side note, we both live by the university we attend, which is about an hour away from where we are both from. I am moving home in late December, and she is going to stay and go to school for another year and a half. Any advice is appreciated. P.S. I was kicked out both times for saying the wrong thing. She got embarassed both times, and that's her reason for making me leave. I wasn't rude or mean. I just made things awkward. She does sense that I am kind of strange, but I think that's why she likes me. Last edited by ranger0286; Nov 13, 2010 at 03:57 AM. |
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It seems if she 'took you back' like you said after mutiply times, to a girl, that means that she has feelings for you and wants to try again. (Alot of girls won't waste their time if they don't think the guy is worth it. By what you say she thinks u are worth it!) You mentioned you went out with her four times, have you known her longer then that? Do you feel comfortable with her knowning about the bipolar- that in my opinion is extremely important? How comfortable are you with her? The good thing is she 'took you back' so telling her may help her understand why your personality at times changes drastically. Is there a way you can share some details with her? It basically depends on how comfortable are you with her knowning. Also, how much do you want to let your guard down with her? You may be presently surprised and she's understanding with what you feel comfortable with telling her.
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Hello ranger,
If you have feelings for her, and the relationship then I suggest you tell her. Rather than ending it because it is all too hard but say that you just don't want to cause her any more anguish. I can understand where you're coming from but how about you take the bull by the horns and tackle it? This relationship could be really worth it for you, wouldn't you like to get some help for your issues rather than just run from what could be something great? Counselling could be a great idea for you personally so that you can learn how to communicate properly; bipolar doesn't mean you have a personality that isn't ok for relationships. It is the communication skills which need adjusting.
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Thanks for all of the great advice. I am still kind of indecisive on what to do. I see her tomorrow so I will see what happens. In the meantime, I will plan out what I am going to say if I find an opportunity tomorrow. Thanks and I will keep you posted.
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