[tryingtobeme]

So, I have this friend of mine IRL. We will use K for her name. Any ways, I have been friends with her or so called friends with her for about 16 years. We have been through a lot. One time, my ex's father died so I had to cancel my plans with her to be with him. I was seeing him for 5 years and she was pissed at me for canceling with her to be with him in his time a need. That's been awhile ago now, but it still gets to me when knew issues come up.

I am 32 and she is 33, I moved out of home, got married, and had a child. She said she supported me through all this, but she has never been happy about it everytime something life changing happens. She still lives with her parents ( she can financially afford to be on her own, she just has it too good at home), not seeing anyone, not married and don't have any children. She won't even go out with anyone unless she talks about her 2 boyfriends she's had that she feel in love with. One of which was 10 years ago when they split up and she still compares every guy to him.

Also, when my father came down with cancer, and I was driving 2 hours away every day to be with him (yes I would leave work yearly to go and see him and come back late everynight). K stays up until 2 or 3 in the morning, but there are weekends we could get together some. Any ways, Just with everything going on with my dad, days and then weeks and then months went by where she didn't even both to contact me, see how I was doing. Can you believe that? One of the most tragic times in my life and she could have cared less.

Now, we are deciding to have another baby. Does she care no. her response was, " I am to old to have kids, I will never be married and then she just starts crying on the phone to me. I was looking for a little support since I have to take fertility treatment and it could be a long raod ahead of me. Am I just being selfish. I guess I thought friends were supposed to support one another, not judge and compare thier lives. This really hurt me when she did this the other night. Talk about getting all depressed.

I'm really confused about this friendship, or is it really even a friendship. Any advice?

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Friendship is a two way thing.

She sounds like a very spoilt person to me.

[madisgram]

a true friend is caring unconditionally and we do the same back to them. it doesn't sound you have much in common with her anymore either. no i wouldn't call her a friend.