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#1
Oct 02, 2005, 01:26 PM
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I have a friend who has been divorced about 8 years now. For the past (3) years she has involved with a married man whom she works with. (he is not her boss however) Anyway, this man has been living apart from his wife for 2 1/2 years but is only now finalizing the divorce. Meanwhile, he now tells my friend that he needs space, time to himself to date, figure stuff out. Granted he is 47 years old. The irony of all of this, is my friend is willing to let go of the relationship, but he will not. He emails at work, calls her at home, tells her how much he loves her, misses her but still feels that he needs to date and be free for awhile to make sure he doesn't regret anything later. What are your thoughts? Just curious!!!
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#2
Oct 02, 2005, 02:44 PM
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it's called being a man.
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#3
Oct 02, 2005, 04:57 PM
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 IMHO - she needs to totally stop the communication, block the E-mails, screen her calls, etc. Only THEN will he decide if he really wants his space.......or her ! |
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#4
Oct 02, 2005, 08:12 PM
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Fayerody,
You nailed it. 
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#5
Oct 02, 2005, 09:36 PM
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Sweet, another rip on men thread.
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#6
Oct 02, 2005, 09:46 PM
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I agree with Parker!!
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#7
Oct 02, 2005, 11:03 PM
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how is this a rip on men, when this dude is doing what he's doing? how about an thoughtful answer from your perspective? that might be more helpful.
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#8
Oct 02, 2005, 11:07 PM
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the only rip is the rip-off he's giving her
Angie
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Oct 02, 2005, 11:25 PM
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#10
Oct 02, 2005, 11:41 PM
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a man / men - they're different. oh how quick we are to generalize.
All this has nothing to do with the original post. In my opinion, she should get rid of his useless ***. |
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#11
Oct 02, 2005, 11:46 PM
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wasn't that what the thread was about? i didn't see anyone suggesting that she stay.
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#12
Oct 02, 2005, 11:48 PM
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bashing a man is what this theat is about. not men. again, they're different.
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#13
Oct 03, 2005, 01:40 AM
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read the original post. this is not a man bashing thread. i still ask you to discuss this from your perspective. all you're doing is being defensive.
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#14
Oct 03, 2005, 09:16 AM
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I have to agree with John in regards to "ripping" men.
I mean what kind of woman sleeps with a married man, anyway? She's no prize either. NO woman who'll sleep with a married man is someone whom I feel sorry for when she gets jacked by this married guy she was sleeping with. What did she expect? I say she gets what she deserves. I really don't care what happens to her. I hope this guy screws her over real good. Let it be a lesson to her. |
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#15
Oct 03, 2005, 12:20 PM
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the fact that she slept with married men was never in the discussion. we were asked what we thought about something specifically and we answered it.
just for your information, someone slept with my husband when i was married to him. i hardly support that type of behavior. |
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#16
Oct 03, 2005, 05:10 PM
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 I guess my very strong opinion on home wreckers came shining through. I do apologize, not for that opinion, but for expressing it someplace it didn't belong. Thanks for pointing this out to me, Fayer. |
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#17
Oct 04, 2005, 10:46 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
fayerody said: it's called being a man. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I believe this is what John was referring to when he said the thread was ripping on men, along with the two replies that said "I agree" and "you nailed it." Saying that one man's bad behavior is equated with "being a man" implies that this behavior is typical of all men. There are certainly quite a lot of men in the world who have never behaved in this manner. I am sure you did not mean to impune all men with this reply, but I can understand where a man might feel that this community is not supportive of men when he reads comments such as this.
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#18
Oct 04, 2005, 10:53 AM
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Nicely said.
gg
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#19
Oct 05, 2005, 06:45 PM
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Honestly, if he is making this kind of a permanent change in his life, he might be thinking he better really figure out what he really wants out of life and a relationship. Maybe what he is doing is just making sure he doesn't jump into another relationship that he just wants to get out of later. I do agree that she kind of put herself in a place where he was already unstable in relationships- just happened to be with her.
Maybe this is a step in the right direction from him. Lis |
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#20
Oct 06, 2005, 03:48 AM
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me too but she's in love.
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#21
Oct 06, 2005, 03:49 AM
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what kind of man acts that way at 47? yikes????
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#22
Oct 06, 2005, 03:51 AM
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And the Ex and his children, friends, family and himself. Extremely selfish in my opinion.
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#23
Oct 06, 2005, 03:52 AM
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I like that title "Useless ***"
Love it. |
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