[youOme]

My boyfriend and I have been together going on 3 years now and have a 2 month old together. Our entire relationship has been difficult but we always managed to pull through because we really do love each other. A lot of our problem did stem from how we got together (i left my ex and he was VERY recently seperated from my bff). We agreed to bury that hatched and only focus on our relationship, so far we have, probably because between him and I we have enough issues to keep up busy. Anyway, we have been going through a lot of stress and we have both said very hurtful things to one another. I believe sometimes we hate each other. I really want this to work out for the sake of our new family, but not even the strongest could live this way much longer.

[Leed]

Well, first you need to figure out what the biggest issue is - - what do you fight about the MOST?? Then you need to sit down and CALMLY -- like ADULTS -- discuss it!! Make a rule that there will be no name calling, no shouting, no low-blows -- that's only for children. Just discuss it. What are you going to do about it? What is the best way to solve it?? Will you be better off together or apart? And remember -- you have another LIFE to think about here - your 2 month old child!! You probably shouldn't have been so anxious to have a child if you couldn't make your relationship work. A child needs *2* parents who get along - they DESERVE a family. Not a war zone.

So figure out what is best for this CHILD. The two of you don't really matter -- your biggest concern right now should be your child. I wish you the best of luck -- God bless you both. Hugs, Lee

[MyLife82]

I am in a situation similar to yours. We been together 10 yrs on and off. We been living together for the past 2 yrs. My boyfriend has cheated on me more than enough. We also have a 4 yr old boy together. And I honestly think that he don't love me. He always try to.find something to b mad at me. N before he even analyse the situation...he jumps to a conclusion that Yah its my fault...n get mad n scream n call me very bad word u can call a woman. I try my best to make all of us happy. But seems like ge care less for.me. he never want to make plans with me or when he is home he spend most of the time either watching tv or on the phone on internet. I try talking to him n looks like he complete ignores me. Anything else sounds more important than me. I always have to wait n wait. And what about sex... if I don't ask I don't.get it. Plus he is.going to Mexico. N I'm having a very hard time to believr him or trust him. I'm so confused! Help.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello YouOme, My Life82,

Both of you need a good kick in the backside (with love of course), to get yourselves and your tiny children OUT of these situations. They are toxic and the children are absorbing every word and every tone you guys use.

Honestly I would be out of there quick smart. Your children are subjected to all of the abuse and those poor children will grow up thinking abuse is normal and that method of communication is normal when it isn't; that is so wrong!

I really wish you the very best of luck with this situation