[Bunny2033]

In short my husband had an emtional affair with someone and got involved with some women. It hurt me. He said and did somethings that hurt me too. Now, he claims it is over, but I am still angry. everyday - at least once I get angry with him.

I don't want to be angry because it is not healthy, but I think he should be held accountable.

I would never do what he did. I think he had both an emotional and a physical affair. I have no proof of the physical affair. So I fell like at times that I am in constant hell-torn because I don't know who I live with how far things went. I just look at him at times with disgust and anger- no matter how nice he tries to me. Truely, there are times when I just feel hatred.

Bunny2003

[Perna]

Bunny, anger is an emotion and is very healthy! We have to feel our emotions or then we will get sick. If you are angry at your husband, your body/anger is telling you to do something about the situation.

Why do you stay with him/take him back? The only accountability he has is to you and your marriage and if he does not seem trustworthy to you, what is the purpose of being married to him?

The anger is not going to go away until you solve your problem of what do to in your relationship; your husband isn't angry because he already decided to have an affair. You have to decide your half of the situation. Just feeling isn't doing.

If you do not trust him I would ask him to leave, at a minimum and, depending on if you want to continue the relationship or not, either work toward getting a divorce or tell him to show you, by his actions, that you can trust him again.

I am sorry he hurt you. There is nothing you or he can do about that now; it's done. Now you have to deal with the next step, I think that is what your anger is telling you.