[stieg]

Ok here it goes. This weekend there will be a valentines activity for singles. The fact is that i'm considering to go but my dating skills are not good. I haven't been doing this for a long time and i want to meet people and possibly planning dates. I feel a little scared and i don't want to spend another year alone still dateless. Need your help a lot.

yes, go. you've got nothing to lose. just try to relax and have fun and if you meet someone you connect with take it from there but if not that is ok too. the most important thing is to have fun and relax and not try to force anything. just be yourself.

[justjoanie]

Definitely go and have fun!! Yes, you'll be nervous at first, but you'll be glad you went.

[Yoda]

What a great opportunity to work on your dating skills. You don't have to be perfect, ya know, just talk to some people and if that is as far as it goes fine, but you will have taken an opportunity. I am sure it will be a bit scary but the more you get out of your comfort zone, the more comfortable you will get.

[stieg]

Thanks for the feedback but i still have some worries. Women these days look for a man who has a job that pays enough cash and luxury and i don't have that and i do have a job. And what if i am not atractive? I think i shouldn't go. I feel extremely different to everybody. I guess i should buy a pet instead. Why is extremely difficult to find someone that might like you?

[Yoda]

Different women look for different things in men just as men do with women. So what if you don't make a connection with the majority of women you meet? You are looking to build a relationship with one special woman and you are going to put yourself out there among all the Mrs Wrongs until you find somebody special. It is said for women you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. The same is true for men. You are going to meet women that are not right for you before you find somebody that you want to spend time with.

So what have you got to lose if you go out and you don't meet that special someone? A bit of time and a bit of money. But it is an opportunity to talk to people and work on overcoming your shyness.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by stieg

Ok here it goes. This weekend there will be a valentines activity for singles. The fact is that i'm considering to go but my dating skills are not good. I haven't been doing this for a long time and i want to meet people and possibly planning dates. I feel a little scared and i don't want to spend another year alone still dateless. Need your help a lot.

Go. Smile. Have fun. You might meet some nice people!

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by stieg

Thanks for the feedback but i still have some worries. Women these days look for a man who has a job that pays enough cash and luxury and i don't have that and i do have a job. And what if i am not atractive? I think i shouldn't go. I feel extremely different to everybody. I guess i should buy a pet instead. Why is extremely difficult to find someone that might like you?

Oh, my goodness! I'm a woman and I make my own living! I wouldn't know what to do with luxury -- the guilt would probably kill me! Here's what I think makes a man attractive: being neat and clean and having a pleasant expression and being kind to others. And if you want a pet to love and take care of no matter what -- they're a very big responsibility -- then have a pet. But adult people at a party are actually a little easier because when you are tired of their company you can go home. I hope you go and have a good time. I like you just because you actually care whether people like you. That's honest and a quality to be admired.