I'm 10 times worse than the worst person in the whole world *advice needed ASAP*

So... I liked this guy, and I found out my roomate liked him too. I wasn't going to do anything about it, except we went out drinking at the bars. And I was talking to people and then I got a drink poured down my back and I started to cry. I went to go hug my roomates and the guy I liked hugged me too. Then I dunno what happened I thought he kissed me, but he said I kissed him, but he kissed back. Anyhow, my roomates left and the guy I like he needs to use cruches because he's pretty close to being a parapalegic. So we were trying to find a taxi because his friends ditched him. We couldn't find any and he wanted to get home so he said he was going to walk and wanted me to walk with him. It was quite a long walk...and we'd stop along the way so he could rest And I'd give him encouragement through my kisses. We got to his place, and it was past 2am and he didn't want me walking home alone. So I slept with him in his bed... we did everything except sex and we were up till 6am talking and such. He said he felt great chemistry with me and I have the best kisses on earth. I really upset my roomate. and my other roomate said how could I do that to her, I pretty much lost 2 friends. I feel like %#@&#!, what am I supposed to say in this situation or do? It's like how can SHE like him but I'm not allowed to? Please help A.S.A.P.!!!

Spaz...
1) You are NOT the worst person in the world, believe me. I've known you for what, a year now? Therefore, I know how kind you are.

2) You did nothing wrong. I think you should stand up for yourself and say to your roommates just what you said to us: "how can she like him but I'm not allowed to?". What would have happened if your roommate found herself in that situation? Would she have not kissed him out of respect for you? And is that what you would have wanted? Nobody gets to be with the guy that they like? No, I think you should apologize for hurting her, one time only, and then leave it alone. Do not apologize to the other one -- she is sticking her nose into a situation she doesn't belong in anyway. If you want to date this guy, then go right ahead. Don't sneak around... be honest and direct with your roommates. They WILL get over it, especially if it turns into a relationship.

3) If these are true friends of yours, then they'll be happy for you. If it doesn't turn into a relationship because he's not all that you hoped he would be, then you'll have saved the other roommate some heartache. Either way, if they are true friends, then this will be a mere blip on the radar a month or two from now. Having had college roommates for 4 years myself, I can say that when we get together now, 15 years later, we barely remember who hooked up with who. We just know that we remained friends no matter what, and didn't freak out at each other for silly things like a guy one of us kissed once at the end of a night at the bar.

Thanks LMo *hugs*

I got a 2 page note from her today, I'm a back stabber who she'll never trust again and she doesn't even want to look at me or see me for a whole week. She won't listen to me at all :/

A note? Good grief. Katt, you tried to talk to her. Personally, I think writing a note is a cop out. You're both supposedly adults. Adults, especially people that are supposed to be friends, talk through these situations. You can only apologize so many times, Katt.

You didn't intentionally hurt her. You didn't go behind her back. If the person was off limits she should have stated it waaay before now. You are not a mind reader, nor should you be expected to be a mind reader. Don't beat yourself up about it too much. This has no bearing on your ability to be a good friend.

She'll get over it. It would be one thing if you "stole her boyfriend". But you didn't. Men will come and go. It seems like this "crush" is enough for her to end a friendship over. Hopefully, she has weighed her decision carefully. If it were me, I would give her some space.

I agree with 1day. You have done nothing wrong. You apologized once, and that's all you should have to do. Sounds to be as though she is being very selfish and is reacting immaturely. Hold your ground... you're doing just fine.

Thanks it just SUCKS... I can't describe the feeling

I know. I've been there. Time heals it. Just hang in there. I'm still happy for you that you got to kiss the guy you like

Thanks soo much everyone for your support... I'm thinking of shredding her note, what do you think? or maybe burning it...

Whatever gives you comfort. My advice is to do nothing to call attention to the issue. I'm not normally one to avoid confrontation, but the more you make of it, the bigger it will get in this case.

i agree, spaz....hang in there and hold your head up high...xoxox pat