[annonymous11]

So... there is this dude that I am dating, and he already said he loves me.. creeped me out a bit. We met in October and have been dating since. I don't know what to do, I honestly feel we should stop dating also since sex and lust is interfering and being a problem. We had agreed to stop dating if sex and lust came in between us again (after like 5 or so times)... next thing you know it did, and to top it off he had told me he loved me a few hours before the sex and lust came along... feel bad about this whole mess. I tried breaking it off, but he wanted to try and make things work still. I care for him, and overall see him as a great friend, and someone I would like to still have in my life. But if it doesn't work out because of this, then thats fine too, i would understand. What is really throwing me off is that he said he loves me while we are only dating... What should I do? ... What would you do??

Also, I do find him a little cruel and jerky at times and it does annoy me and is sort of hurtful. I have told him or pointed out when he is being annoying, but i'm not sure if he thinks i'm joking. I think my facial expressions too would say that I am getting annoyed. Maybe it is best I do pull away from him little by little?

Please advice... thank you in advance.

[RomanSunburn]

I have to be honest, your post confused me a little. I'm having trouble understanding exactly what you're struggling with. From what I can gather, though, is that you aren't really romantically attracted to him. It seems that you would be more comfortable being just friends with this guy than actually dating him. I think you should tell him this. It is unfair for either of you to stay in this relationship if the feelings are one sided.

Good luck!

[Leed]

Hi ~ I get the impression that this guy kind of creeps you out ~ that you wouldn't care if you were friends or not.

Since this guy obviously feels more for you than you do for him, you need to tell him so. Sit him down and gently tell him that you think he's a "nice" guy but you don't feel the same about him as he does for you, and that you just want to be friends. Tell him that you think it would be better if you didn't date anymore and that he should find a girl who would love him like he deserves.

The sooner you do this, the more fair it will be to him. Don't string him along any more than you have to. He's going to get hurt no matter what you do, but try to hurt him as little as possible. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee

Originally Posted by annonymous11

So... there is this dude that I am dating, and he already said he loves me.. creeped me out a bit. We met in October and have been dating since. I don't know what to do, I honestly feel we should stop dating also since sex and lust is interfering and being a problem. We had agreed to stop dating if sex and lust came in between us again (after like 5 or so times)... next thing you know it did, and to top it off he had told me he loved me a few hours before the sex and lust came along... feel bad about this whole mess. I tried breaking it off, but he wanted to try and make things work still. I care for him, and overall see him as a great friend, and someone I would like to still have in my life. But if it doesn't work out because of this, then thats fine too, i would understand. What is really throwing me off is that he said he loves me while we are only dating... What should I do? ... What would you do??

Also, I do find him a little cruel and jerky at times and it does annoy me and is sort of hurtful. I have told him or pointed out when he is being annoying, but i'm not sure if he thinks i'm joking. I think my facial expressions too would say that I am getting annoyed. Maybe it is best I do pull away from him little by little?

Please advice... thank you in advance.

I'm also a little confused - I'm not sure how old you are, but having sex is a normal part of a growing relationshi IF YOU ARE BOTH READY FOR IT - you talk about giving in to lust so I'm wondering if having sex is against some kind of belief system you have....

However, more important is the part about finding him cruel and jerky....why would you want to be someone who you find hurtful and annoys you, even as a friend? Follow Leed's advice and end the relationship - my experience is to do it like ripping off a bandaid - very quickly - it may sting a little at first but then it's over and you can move on.