[someoneincali]

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little less than a year. My parents have met him a couple of times and they think he's a great guy. Unfortunately, my parents have had to deal with my older sister and her (many) boy drama, and that has led them to be stricter and more weary about boys in general.

My boyfriend has told his mother that he loves me and it's really touching. She's perfectly fine with it even though he and I did have a little rough patch a while back. What happened today was completely nerve wrecking. My mom was with me while I was showing her some emails when all of a sudden my Mac started showing previews of some text messages that my boyfriend and I had sent to each other earlier that day. He was telling me how much he loved me and how he couldn't wait to have lunch with me again. I know I'm pretty young (I'm only a senior in high school) but I've confessed my love for him too.

What got me worrying was that I never told my parents about it, and all of a sudden, that incident happened. I think I overheard my mom talking about it later with my stepdad. I don't know, I might be a little paranoid right now. I just don't know what I would do if my parents did pop up the question about it. What should I say?

[Leed]

Well, hon there's really nothing you can say. You can't deny it or lie about it. Never lie to your parents, or anyone else for that matter. Just be honest, and tell them the truth! If you really love your bf, then tell them. They'll respect you more if you're honest.

You might get the parental "lecture" about being too young to feel like you in love, but that's a parent's "duty." They don't want you getting too involved at such a young age. No parent wants their child to "fall in love" when they're a teenager, and then POSSIBLY make a mistake and get pregnant or something like that. That WOULD be a tragedy. You certainly are not prepared to bring a child into the world. And while you may say that "it will never happen" we've all heard that before. And then it DOES happen, unfortunately.

So just listen to them when they talk to you. They're just being good parents, okay? God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[jadzea]

If you are a senior in high school I assume you are over 18. If that is the case you do not need to tell you parents anything. True, you live in their house and have to abide by their rules but you also have a right to your privacy. If your mother asks be honest and tell her as much as you want her to know. If she does not ask you do not have to volunteer anything.

My parents were very strict and judgemental and believed they had the right to state their opinion regardless of how much it might hurt. At that time the legal age was still 21 so they could be involved in my life a little more. I watched my father spend 45 minutes berating my sister's one boyfriend after they met him for the first time. He was cruel and she was crushed. I vowed on that day that I would never give them a chance to do the same to me. As a result they did not meet any man I dated until we had set the wedding date. My mother was not happy we waited so long and I think she still blames my husband for the secrecy but it saved me a ton of heartache. I'm sure my parents would have broken us up. We have been married for over 35 years. It was a good match.

It is time for you to live your life and break away from your parents. Do it kindly and gradually. They will adjust and respect you in the end.

[someoneincali]

Thank you both so much for the advice. <3 It's funny how you just need different perspectives to get your mind to think clearly...and I thank you both for doing so to mine. I will take both of your advices into account!!

[someoneincali]

Originally Posted by Leed

Well, hon there's really nothing you can say. You can't deny it or lie about it. Never lie to your parents, or anyone else for that matter. Just be honest, and tell them the truth! If you really love your bf, then tell them. They'll respect you more if you're honest.

You might get the parental "lecture" about being too young to feel like you in love, but that's a parent's "duty." They don't want you getting too involved at such a young age. No parent wants their child to "fall in love" when they're a teenager, and then POSSIBLY make a mistake and get pregnant or something like that. That WOULD be a tragedy. You certainly are not prepared to bring a child into the world. And while you may say that "it will never happen" we've all heard that before. And then it DOES happen, unfortunately.

So just listen to them when they talk to you. They're just being good parents, okay? God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

I don't know how this whole replying feature works but I just now received word that I had replies on this thread! Thank you for your advice. <3 I will really take it into account!!