[(JD)]

Without getting into administrative issues here How long is an appropriate amount of time to wait before putting someone on ignore here? I mean, after trying to work things out in PMs... because I've been erroneously accused of sending someone a PM and then putting them on ignore "so they can't respond." It wasn't that way at all.. so now, if I want to just not read someone.. and have PMd with them first.... how long do I wait so I won't get into trouble.

Take into account (like most here) I might forget I wanted to spare myself from reading this member... and if I don't do it while I'm onsite now... sigh. Do you think you have to always notify them you are putting them on ignore? I don't. I mean, Idon't think you should have to tell them.. that could also be implied as flaming, couldn't it? And what if it's just the mood your in, and you will take them off ignore later.. if you told them, then you might lose that relationship, right?

Why do I even care!

[allthegirls6]

Interesting question.

I have never put somone on ignore, and I dont even know if the other person would know that I had done it.

But at the end of the day you have to look after yoursefl and if someone is sending you PMs that are upsetting, or if they cannot undersand what you say etc, and if it feels better for you to ignore them i would say "hit the button now"

As for losing the relationship................... well it may not come to that if they dont know you have done it. The admin would have to answer that. Or maybe you could put a friend on ignore and get them to send a test message to see what happens.

But sky, if you want to ignore someone and you feel you have tried to sort it out and failed then I would say you have every right to put the person on ignore. Look after you.

atg

[gardenergirl]

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.. so now, if I want to just not read someone.. and have PMd with them first.... how long do I wait so I won't get into trouble.


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I'm confused about something. What trouble could you get into for putting someone on ignore?

And I think telling them is a courtesy, but is not always necessary. But either way, they probably will find out.

gg

[SpazKatt]

I think if they are bothering you and you have asked them to stop and have tried to work it to the best of our abilities and they continue thier behavior that it is OK to put them on ignore. If you are especially concerened I'd save your PMs and inform a mod or administrator since it seems like you are trying hard to fix this I really don't see you being the person who is flaming the other person. *HUGS* I hope it goes alright!

[SpazKatt]

I'm not saying that they should intervine, just have someone as say a "witness" that you were not trying to be hurtful. So that incase the other person retlaiates you do not become the "bad guy"

[LMo]

I agree with GG, Sky -- do what you need to do.

[Twinks]

Jeeze Sky,

You are way over thinking this. Put them on ignore now.

This site is starting to get too much drama......

Twinks

[(JD)]

he he he maybe so. It's just... that.. oh never mind. yeah. Oh I did find out something here.. wondering if it's just my problem or not.. but I CAN PM someone I have on ignore! So if I forget I have them on ignore and send a PM.. then they can't respond and can get in a dither with me...

[wi_fighter]

Put whoever it is on ignore and don't worry about what they might think. It's their issue if they can't handle it. And there shouldn't be a time limit. If seeing their writing triggers you in any way, you have every right to protect yourself from it.

[SeptemberMorn]

I don't think you should have to tell anyone you are putting them on ignore, but it's not fair to PM that person and then block them right away. That's happened to me and I KNOW it was done or purpose because it was 2 or 3 PMs right in a row and I couldn't respond to any of them. I think that's harrassment.

LOL I doubt that there's any "etiquette" for ignoring someone. If you need to protect yourself, then by all means so it!

[LMo]

I agree. It would not be cool to PM someone if you have THEM on Ignore, but as you pointed out, Sky, there is nothing in the system from stopping people from doing so, even in the case of forgetting.

[(JD)]

I don't think anyone can KNOW what another person is thinking, or has been told by the mods and with the delays between PMs and all.. but this isn't about anyone on this thread, ok? I went ahead and iggy'd the other member... for the whole site.. I"m in too much pain right now to worry about it anyway. TC

[SpazKatt]

*hugs* soo sorry for your pain!

[Perzephone]

Well, there's got to be a reason to have an 'ignore' function. I just wish we had one in real life.

[SeptemberMorn]

The function of the Ignore button is to protect ourselves. Doc John has said so many times. I say, if it's there and you feel you need it, USE IT! If you feel you're being harassed, there's nothing stopping YOU from using it.