tough decision

what would you do if offered 1500 dollars from a friend to help get on your feet? i have had a very hard time trying to get on my feet again..i am going back to work on thursday,part time till the baby is older,and am trying really hard to deal with ptsd and other issues..but i am the only provider for my children so i must do what i have to do to give them the things they need in life....
i met a man who is a very nice person,,he is a business man and has told me numerous times about the kind of money he makes...at first i did not take him seriously about money because i thought he was just trying to impress me...we have developed a friendship over the past couple of months..he has taken me out for dinner a couple of times and when i see him out he always buys my drinks...i also know that he has lent money to people freely and many times he does not get it back,but is too nice to have hard feeling because he knows the people that havent paid him cannot really afford to...
before i knew about his money i had gotten into conversations about some of my history and the struggle i am having..he also opened up and has shared many of his life experiences...he has traveled the world and seen some very hard things growing up,,but also experienced the luxuries money can buy...
he started offering to lend me money and i have refused many times,,,i do not want to lead him on and give him hope for a seriuos relationship..i have so much stuff to deal with i am no good for that...i know he wants to have a more serious relationship but has assured me many times that he will not pressure me and that i am in control as to where we take our friendship..he says if it never becomes anything romantic that he will be ok with that...

last night he wrote me a check and told me to put it in my pocket..i didnt even look at it for some time...he says he wants to help me because he sees hope for me..he sees the struggle im having trying to support my children..he says he believes i will ,in time, do very well for myself..once i get back to work and get through all the hurt i have gone through...i have mentioned that some day i would like to open my own business and he was very impressed by that..he even mentioned that he would help me if i wanted him to...
when i have talked to him about how freely he spends his money he assured me not to worry that he will never run out..

would i be leading him on into thinking that someday we will be intimate?
if i look at it in a business sense,maybe he is thinking of it as an investment in my future..he does not want me to worry about repaying him until i am in a better place financially..he said a year..

can i actually cash this check without any strings attached,,he assures me yes,but i have never met a man like this so i dont know..

how can i refuse when i have been struggling so hard and finally starting to move forward..my children need things that i cant afford right now,,and a good grocery order would be nice...but how can i accept1500 dollars

As long as he KNOWS that this is a LOAN and you will pay him back -- and as long as he knows that this relationship is purely platonic and that's ALL ~ you should have no qualms about cashing the check. You DO need the money for your children. They come FIRST and foremost before anything or anyone else.

So go ahead and cash the check or deposit it in your bank. And buy those kids the things they need -- like good food!! But make sure that you repay him when you are able. You'll feel much better about yourself if you do. God bless and congrats!! Hugs, Lee

I think you need to have a conversation with him about it. Say outright that you are accepting this money as a friend and only because you are in really rough times, and that this does not mean in any way shape or form that the relationship will become romantic, or different in any way. Possibly you can even get this in writing if you're super worried, that would be aquard but that way there's no strings...

it sounds like you could really use the money and if this guy is honest and fair about it, would be wonderful. Try to be true to yourself about this and your feelings. And to him as well.