[itsmeshorti]

Hi guys, If I am posting this in the wrong place please redirect me.

I am a 29 year old female working my way out of the closet... I met a girl 3 weeks ago at my cousins wedding. We were drinking, mostly I was. So I find that I am very drawn to this girl. I don't know what it is about her but I was just pulled to her. I'm not sure if she was flirting with me. But I definitely was with her. Before she left I suggested we get together sometime. She friended me on FB. We have only chatted once on there. So I'm thinking if she really was interested she would have contacted me by now. But then again here I am very shy and I can't contact her either.

Friday I was checking out her profile and accidentally requested her number. Agh how embarrassing. So I sent her a message "hey sorry about that I was clicking away on the phone and accidentally sent the request." She replied back it's ok here is my # in case you decide you want it. I haven't been brave enough to call, or even reply. I know what I want from her, but does she want the same thing?

My dilemma, I can't stop thinking about her, I keep having sexual fantasies about us meeting, like all of the time, since we talked last week on FB. I don't even know her. I keep looking at her profile, I feel like a creep. I don't even know if she likes me "in that way", she is bi-sexual, but said she was looking to make more friends. I am worried that if we do meet that my fantasies will ruin a potential relationship/ friendship. Like I'm afraid I will act this out. I am not a very spontaneous person, I guess I'm afraid of not being able to control my feelings. I think if I knew for sure she was interested "in that way" I would not be so hesitant. Maybe I'm afraid to come out of the closet? I wouldn't even mind being just friends with her, but I think this fantasizing may ruin it. Who knows if I do meet up with her I may find I don't even like her that much, lol this is just a fantasy. As you can see I am very confused. I thought about talking to my T about it, but we have a lot do discuss tomorrow I don't know if we can fit it in.
Some advice, Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Again I am sorry if this is the wrong place to post this I'm just not sure where to turn.

[Direction]

Since you asked the question...you must feel in someway that fantasizing could interfer...why not just call and go out someplace. Try to stay in the present and not dwell about the future stuff

[itsmeshorti]

Thank You for your reply. I sent her a message saying we should hang out sometime. The only thing fantasizing is doing for me is possibly setting me up for rejection. You are right stay in the present.