[hoping4best]

I was wondering can a crush last longer than a year? Or is it love if the feelings persist for that long? If latter is true, i have apparently fallen in love atleast 3 times over past few years.and one of them was NEVER available for me,it was completely one sided and its been 2 years and i havnt got over him completely as yet.

[GreatKisser]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

I was wondering can a crush last longer than a year? Or is it love if the feelings persist for that long? If latter is true, i have apparently fallen in love atleast 3 times over past few years.and one of them was NEVER available for me,it was completely one sided and its been 2 years and i havnt got over him completely as yet.

Having been in love/crush so many times in a few years just means you have alot of love you want to put out to the world. Its misdirected towards the past and the unavailable, but its real. Brooding over someone is a natural feeling but you just have to tell yourself out loud that you need to move onward to new romances. I realized my value as a loving person that could make someone happy one day and moved on after brooding for a year over a girl. Time definatly helps as long as you reinforce it with wanting to find someone new.

I think a crush is one sided - Love is between two people....

You can love things about someone but unless you are in a relationship with them, can you really be in love with them?

and one of them was NEVER available for me,it was completely one sided and its been 2 years and i havnt got over him completely as yet.

Maybe you can do something to get some closure on this person/crush/relationship and move on to something that will make you feel better?

[Direction]

[eskielover]

Yes, a crush is a one sided feeling of love for someone. Love can only truly exist in a relationship where both people feel the same way about each other.

We are really all people with love inside of us wanting to come out for others......It's important to find the person who you can be in a relationship with so that you can share the love you know you have inside to share. It takes time to find the right person & if you get stuck in past crushes.....you will not allow yourself to get into the present & future so that you will be able to find the right person.

[hoping4best]

It kind of hurts me to hear that if i dont receive love in return of my feelings then im not 'in love' with that person at all. *sigh*

[Vibe]

It sounds more like infatuation than anything.

Originally Posted by jiakhan

It kind of hurts me to hear that if i dont receive love in return of my feelings then im not 'in love' with that person at all. *sigh*

I did not want to hurt you - please forgive me if I did - it was not my intent at all.

A crush can definitely feel like love and I have definitely had my share. but sometimes when you put someone up on a pedestal like that in your head, and then you actually get to know them in a relationship, they don't turn out the way you thought they would be...that's the difference...when you know someone, you can love them....when you are kind of worshipping them from afar, it's more of a crush or as Vibe said...infatuation.