Never ending cycle: him - no your wrong... Me -no I'm not.. Me -you're wrong

Its an never ending cycle between him and I. When he doesn't meet my needs then I won't meet his needs. He complains and I do the same. He thinks he's doing enough but I don't agree. No one understand one another and the cycle continues. A relationship should be a give and take, compromise thing but thats not what I'm dealing with anymore.
Its been two years and I don't want to be that giving and understanding gf anymore. When is it my turn to be taken care of? When can I finally be heard? How come he just can't get his life together? All he can complain about is: how come I'm not affectionate anymore, what happen to the passion in the bedroom. How am I suppose to be in the mood or wanting to give a hug when all I'm thinking is how to pay the bills, when he's only working 2-3 days a week on minimum way. When he won't handle his money problems and try to make things more comfortable then how can he expect for me to ever want to be affectionate. I wish he can put in the same energy of complaining about not getting enough affection and put it all into getting his life together. I'm also dealing with serious health problems and for once I just want to focus on myself, make my surrounding comfortable and positive. I've helped him out for so long now and I'm sick of it if he won't help himself.

I've experienced that whole I won't meet her needs if she doesn't meet mine cycle. Its certainly gets to ending a relationship fast. It sounds like you are looking for someone with more ambition and attuned to your needs...sounds reasonable!

Just one thing to think about for the next relationship...you said, "I don't want to be that giving and understanding gf anymore. When is it my turn to be taken care of?" Be careful you don't fall into the distortion of Heaven's Reward....the idea that if you always do the right thing, you will eventually be rewarded (even if doing the right thing means ignoring your own needs). It sounds like you are moving on from this relationship and catching this before it gets to rooted...good job!