[tannyks]

At first I thought he just had a real close relationship with his parents. But now I see they don`t allow him to do anything for himself. He has no self confidence to stand by his choices. They have continually pushed him into moving back home. He gets so angry and depressed. They have finally corned him and guilted him into moving back home after he graduate college. He`s a 25 year old man! He is miserable and severely depressed. So much so we have split up him telling me he hates himself right now and doesnt want to drag me down with him. He wants to seek help and told me so. I am encouraging him. I told him he needs to stand up and speak for himself cause his life and happiness IS important. I feel like they are trying to get him away from me cause Im a threat to their little boy not coming back. He has a brother who has as little to do with their parents. BF feels like his parents hold everything over his head. They do honey! How do you help someone see this without saying something to offend them or make then turn against you?

[tannyks]

His said part of the problem in his last relationship was his fiance tried to keep him away from his family... profound puzzling insight hmmm

[Flooded]

You can't. They all have to wake up and smell the roses for themselves. No amount of pushing, pulling or telling them their family are toxic will work.

[Perna]

Yes, people have to grow up and form their own lives/families at their own speed. My stepmother called me "stupid" one time too many or I'd probably still be living at home.