[Bladerunner]

I guess Im here because I am having relationship issues with my girlfriend. I love the woman, and I can see myself spending the rest of my life with her. The problem is me. Im am so selfish. It seems that only my feelings matter. My poor girlfriend will try and talk about how she is feeling, and right away I become defensive and make it about me. Our communication suffers because she will tell me what she needs from me, and I give her what I think she needs from me.

I try and stop it, but for whatever reason, I cannot seem to put her feelings before mine. I hate feeling guilty afterwards, and I do wonder why she has not broken up with me yet.

Sigh.

Bladerunner

[Soul Quake]

What are you trying to achieve when you become defensive? Why do you feel that you know better in terms of her needs, even though she's telling you what those needs are? What is going through your mind when you refuse to acknowledge her feelings? Why aren't you listening?

Is it solely because you are selfish, or is it a pride thing where you do not want to admit that you have shortcomings?