[GreenDoor]

I really dislike my bestfriend. It seems like she only calls to rub stuff in my face. For example, Today she called me and told me about how she went to the beach and got tons of new clothes and a new cellphone and so much more. (we are 13, and my family is very poor and can't really afford nice stuff like cellphones and all that stuff)

And alls she does is call my house phone 24/7, I was at my aunts house for a couple days and my mom told me she called over 7 times each day while I was gone, my mom repeatedly told her that I was at my aunts house until sunday.
She is very spoiled and rude, she treats people like crap. She treats my like crap, I can't take it anymore. She puts me in so much stress.

[vintageromance]

Do you think maybe you could be misinterpreting some of her actions? Maybe she isn't really rubbing things in your face; maybe she's just sharing with you. Have you tried talking to her about all of this?

[rubyindie]

ther is probably two ways you could approach this annoying problem!
first talk it out with her- maybe she doesnt know she is hitting on your weak spot and she is so excited to share all her hapening things with you her 'best' friend. maybe if she saw why it hurts she might want to keep the material girl banner off your face. and she would learn to be sensitive to your feelings.
secondly,if she still doesnt get it, know that she needs a lil more growing up to do and instead use this opportunity to develop your maturity, it hurts when someone goats abt their stuff but then we learn to look over and beyond that and we grow in return. maybe it tough for you at this young age, but u get the idea?we meet lots of people like that we need to get tough and thank god for what we have.

[shezbut]

GreenDoor,

Sorry that your friend is hurting your feelings. That probably isn't her intention when she brags. Most likely, her bragging is to make herself feel better about her own life. Very common for young children (elementary school age) to do, some people hold onto that for many, many years though.

Unfortunately, people like that are not totally uncommon in adulthood either. You will meet others with that trait in the future. You have a choice.

You could sit down with your friend and have an open & honest discussion with her. Tell her that it really bothers you when she talks about ____. Makes you feel inadequate and anxious to get away from her. Is she willing to work on her tendency to always outshine others? Does she recognize that she does have this tendency ~ or is she completely unaware? Is she sorry that she's caused you pain?

Depending upon the answers, and whether or not you're willing to give the friendship more time to develop is partially up to you. Personally, I am not willing to put up with adults like this. (My mom has this tendency & it drives me crazy!) As a result, I have pulled away a lot, for my own sanity.

We all have different limits on things that we are and aren't willing to accept. I wish you the best. Gentle hugs to you!