[jamminpianogirl]

Over the past few months I've become acquainted with someone who I'm consistently more drawn to. He possesses a lot of qualities that I'm drawn to; he is reserved, hardworking, reliable, humble, and kind to everyone he speaks too. I don't know him extraordinarily well and haven't spent time with him alone, but I feel like this is a good starting point as we seem to share a lot of values. However, in a little over a month he is planning to move 3 hours away from where I live. His reason is mostly that a lot of his friends live there. I haven't yet told him how I feel or tried to initiate anything - I usually would, but I'm not sure given the situation. We have both been in long distant relationships, and for me I can definitely say it wouldn't deter me, even at the start of a relationship. I don't need a significant other to be around all the time, I'm good at being independent - and I see so many good qualities in him that I want in a long-term partner, I think it's worth it to pursue. If things really worked out, I would certainly be open to relocating. What do you think would be the best thing to do in this situation?

[hoping4best]

Have u met him in person? Or is it an online contact?

[jamminpianogirl]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

Have u met him in person? Or is it an online contact?

We've been working together for the past 6 months. So I've had some casual socialization with him around other people, we've gotten to know each other a bit and had some one-on-one conversation time, but nothing too personal.

[tannyks]

I`m a hopeless romantic. I always say give it a shot! Does he seem intersted in you on that level?

[jamminpianogirl]

I'm having trouble telling if he is interested. Help! I think he may have caught on to some of my hints. We're definitely more friendly with each other at work now, and he asked me out for a drink last weekend after work - but it's been a week and he hasn't asked me out again.

I should clarify that he and I work as musicians and entertain for events and restaurants. Unfortunately, my very jealous ex also knows that we've hung out, and [the ex] showed up to one of our performances wasted and caused a big fuss. I fear this could have scared him away. I've taken measures to separate myself from my ex (blocked on facebook, and I clearly expressed that he is no longer invited to my performances) - but we all run into each other on occasion.

I sincerely regret dating my ex because it was a really casual relationship, and I told him from the start it wasn't going anywhere so we shouldn't get involved if he has any really feelings - but he decided he could make me fall in love with him and he is still trying. I would hate to think that might get in the way of being with somebody I truly feel a genuine connection with.

Anyway, that's just a complicating factor I thought I should mention, because I thought it might have to do with why he hasn't asked me out again. I don't know what to do. Is it up to me to make the next move?

[RomanSunburn]

If you want something, go for it! Sure, he may be a little gun shy because of your ex, but it could also be that he doesn't know how to read you either. I suggest going for drinks again, and see how it goes.