[palemoss]

Let me start off with a quote that always makes me feel better:
"I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best."- marilyn monroe

I recently went on a second "date" with a guy who very recently broke up with his on-again/off-again girlfriend, who is extremely co-dependent and needy with him.

Our first date, he talked about her and I made sure to tell him the next day I didn't appreciate it - either way, we were on for a second date.

The second date, I was somewhat still insecure, detached, and hesitant - I drank a bit too much to numb myself, but we still had stimulating conversation and he even asked me "if i was attracted to him" and whether or not he could put his arm over me -

We go to a bar after the concert, and I start drinking more but I didn't get drunk. I played wingman for his friend and even flirted with some girls ( I am very confused about my sexuality now, and am just a free-spirit).

Anyway, at the end of the night, after we kiss alittle and after he states/observes the fact that I'm not needy and a total free spirit. He gives me a crap goodbye by saying "see you someday."

Did i rub him the wrong way? honestly, I would have really started taking him seriously if he hadn't set a precedent of not being over his ex on the first date. I am borderline too. And crazy, emotional, intense - I just feel like it's really wrong of him to just cut me off like that. I sent him a text explaining my bizarre behavior and how intense my emotions are and that I'm ultimately sorry if I did anything. I am afraid of abandonment.

I wonder what he is thinking?

[lynn P.]

As you mentioned he - "recently broke off with his on-again/off-again girlfriend, who is extremely co-dependent and needy with him". This means he's clearly NOT ready to get involved with a new person. He needs to be completely over the other person. It probably wasn't you at all - he's just not ready.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I agree with Lynn -- I seriously doubt that it had ANYTHING to do with you. I think he is still "pining" for his ex. He shouldn't have gotten back into the dating scene so soon. He needs to take time to get over this other girl.

Don't blame yourself -- it doesn't sound like you did anything at all!! Just keep being your same self -- a free spirit, and independent. God bless & take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee