[SlatkaMala]

I have known A. since the 7th grade. She was very needy and spoiled even back then. In 8th grade, we went out separate ways and I was glad of that.

In 2008, she found me on Classmates.com. Stupidly, I responded to her note. Well, I thought that she would have grown up after all those years.

Evidently not. *sigh*

I'm not the only one that she smothers and pesters.

She will call my cell and land line phone at least five times a day whining about how her life sucks. She once even filled up my whole voice mail box. How? I do not know. Three people actually changed their cell phone numbers to get rid of her.

She always tries to invite herself along with EVERYTHING! I was to have lunch with another friend of mine and A. tried to weasel her way to be invited. I told her no. It was rude just to bring people like that. She whined and whined.

A lot of friends have deleted her from Facebook. Since I'm not on Facebook, I'm spared from all the stupid wall posts she posts on others' walls.

She is very high drama and very toxic.

How do I break away from her with the least amount of dramatics possible? She has threatened to kill herself many times when people pull away from her. She will even drive over to people's houses and stand on their door steps crying and whining until they open up and let her in. Then she just gets crazy.

I guess I can call the cops if she pulls that crap on me. *shrugs* I don't know. I'm about ready to pull my hair out!

[Flooded]

Too much drama

Cut her off and call the cops if she harasses you.

[CedarS]

I agree, cut her off and call the cops when needed.

By setting firm boundaries you are actually doing her a favor. You are being a good role model. If she shows up at your door, tell her to go away, if she does not - call the cops. If she threatens suicide, call the cops.

You have the right to your own boundaries, choices, and decisions.

She may initially respond with increased drama, expect that and be prepared. What you can control is your own actions. You can prepare short statements that you can say, stick to your decisions, don't let her engage you in conversation. Be ready to call police.

Sounds like she is relying on people feeling like they have to be "nice". She is treating people very badly. Firm consequences will help. You'll get to set your own boundaries and defend them if she keeps trying to break through.

Keep records of everything that happens. This will help with any police reports you might need to make, or even a request for restraining order. Keep records on each time you tell her to leave you alone and each time she hassles you.

Good luck!