[elvinchild]

I've recently started hanging out with this guy that I've been casually acquainted with through being part-time working musicians. It started with him asking me out after work for a drink; a couple weeks later we spent a day together. He showed me around his town and stopped by his other job to get ice cream, his friends seemed very excited to see me (but maybe I was imagining it), and we walked by the beach at night and sat and talked for quite awhile. That all sounds wonderful and romantic, but I'm not sure if he's just taking it slow or isn't interested in more than friendship. We hang out maybe every couple weekends and don't talk too much during the week. He's hugged me a couple times after hanging out but not always. He generally keeps our time together short but always makes sure to mention "next time". On the upside, he seems to notice everything about me and remember everything I tell him and everything I post on facebook. He's very sweet and helpful to me. I have a really jealous ex-boyfriend who gets a little verbally aggressive and tries to push us apart - and this guy is quietly assertive and deals with it in stride and still hangs out with me. He's moving 3 hours away in a month (though his family lives here) and he's started talking about visiting home and having me come out to the city so we can still play music together. It's scary for anyone to get involved when long distance is introduced, so the thought occurred to me that maybe he is being careful and just wants to take it slow and be sure things can work when he moves. He tends to be very logical about things rather than being ruled by emotions. He keeps a lot of space between us, but I know when he's not hanging out with me he's always with family or working on music. He's also quite introverted and likes his alone time. I'm actually the same way and space is ideal for me, but I'm just not sure if he likes me because guys usually pressure me and rush like crazy! Thoughts?

[Perna]

I had one of those relationships when I was in college, he'd call me once or twice a school year and we'd do something fantastic with his friends and have a great time but nothing ever "happened" otherwise!

I think you have to discuss with him what his ideas/plans are, how he feels about the two of you together; we could guess all day and not get it right?