Im really confused and I dont know what to do...
There is this guy, I met him roughly 5 months ago, and we became friends right away, and I had a crush on him. He had just broke up with his girlfriend before I met him, so I just stuck to being a friend to him.
He liked my friend Sarah, who he knew for about a year, and asked for my help to talk to her, and I said I would, wish led to us talking even more, nd we got on really well. I told him I couldnt find out Sarahs feelings about him, and he said he didnt care anymore, it was ok.

Then he started flirting with me, and added x's and o's to his messages to me, and then he went to a concert and called me during it to show me the sweet songs and any songs he knew i liked. then we were flirting the next day and suddenly he said him and his ex g/f kissed after the concert, and she took it as they were back together and he didnt know how to tell her they werent. I told him to stop flirting with me until he got it sorted. he said he was sorry and still wanted to be my friend and i said right ok.
then he came down for my birthday, even when i said he didnt have to as he lives an hour away, and we had great fun, and then he kissed me. this lead to him cheating on his girlfriend with me for three months. he kept telling me he would break up with her, and that he was trying but she wouldnt accept it and he was scared of what she would do to herself. (I didnt believe him but then i met her and saw the reality of what was going on and decided to give him another little while.)
well at the end of three months, i decided I couldnt be the other girl anymore and i told him i didnt want to see him anymore because i am worth more than being second best. he broke up with her fully 2 weeks after, and then i started getting calls at 2am from him about how sorry he was and how he didnt mean to hurt me, and i just said i had to go and hung up, because like 2am, I wanted sleep!!

after this he thought i just didnt like him anymore,but i still do like him. but he thought i hung up because i didnt like him.
My friend was talking to him to find out what was going on and he told her that, and he told her that he really misses me and doesnt know what to do, because he thinks i dont like him. she told him that i do like him but im confused at what he wants and dont want to be hurt again. and he told her that he is going to regain a friendship with me, and want to try and earn back my trust. we agreed to go to my school formal together as friends, because id asked him before and he had got his suit and i had my dress, so we are still going together, and he plans to tell me he still likes me at my formal.

so im really confused and i dont know what to do, because i dont know if i can trust him. yea he may be going to try and get my trust back, but i dont know if i can. he cheated with me (and i hated it) and he can cheat on me. and ive been hurt so much by him that i dont know i i want to give him another chance, because three months of being told something that he didnt do until i stopped seeing him, and the fact that he was flirting when he got back with his girlfriend in the first place, well it really did affect and hurt me...

I really just dont know what to do, and I do want to trust him again but i need help knowing how to..

[Perna]

Originally Posted by niamhh504

this lead to him cheating on his girlfriend with me for three months.

I think you should have stuck with telling him to go away and straighten out his life first, like you initially did! If you believe he was "cheating" on his girlfriend with you, that means you were an accessory.

Decide if you really want this two-timer (if he cheats with you and with her and with others then. . .) and if you do, tell him what you want and what will happen if he strays. But I can't see that you can trust him; I'd go with my instincts on this one.

see i did go back to telling him to go away and straighten out his life before coming back, and not even two weeks later he dumped her and started calling me..

I think maybe if I did talk to him, and do what you said, like tell him what I want and stuff, do you think there is a chance we can start again just as new? from the 5th of september, every weekday me and him will be with each other for college it seems, and I dont know anyone else going to the college so it would be nice to have him as a friend even who I could trust.

and maybe then if we could start as new we could be friends properly for a while and see where things lead? I dont know, do you think thats a half logical view? o.o

[Bella01]

I think that you should just be friends for a while and see where that goes. You'll both be at college and meeting new people.

I dont know why, but now when its said by other people it makes a lot more sense and seems a lot more simple to think through, thanks everyone, I think Im going to just be his friend for now.. It is a lot better than trying to rush into something I might regret