[CreativeManic]

I'm at a lost of what to do at the moment with my mother.

A Little Background:

My Mom was involved a relationship that lasted 3 years after a separation with my father. They moved way to fast in my opinion; sold their houses and bought a new one, taking me and my brother along for the ride, despite our apprehensions. Fastforward a while later: the man she was involved with lost his job, got hostile (shouting matches, etc), and decided to declare bankruptcy behind all our backs. This was the end of the road, supposedly. We ended up losing the house and my mother was forced into bankruptcy, also.

It's been a ugly few years since then, I stayed out of it the most I can because I was trying to finish high school. My mom was diagnosed with Bipolar close to the end of the relationship, but she was doing better after awhile with the right meds. I don't know how to describe it, but she these "episodes" when this man even as little enters her life, she becomes almost hysterical.

This week, she found out this man is now getting married, and it's been the biggest episode yet. She won't go to work, can't have a conversation that doesn't end in yelling or sobbing. She'll go on how she'll be alone forever because she hasn't found anyone yet when he did, even though all these people she has met are never given the chance because they're not this other man. She'll take her medications recklessly (more, or drinking with them), so much so that I have had to start regulating them. That's all I know of.

I know heartbreak or whatever (I fail to see how you can still "love" someone when at the end all they did was treat everyone awful) can be hard to pull though sometimes, but at what point does it become self-destuctive?

I don't know what to say or do anymore. I'm trying to live my life and attend college, but it's hard to do when I know all this is going on at home.

Thanks for your time.
(If this is the wrong place, move or lock.)

:long sigh:

Welcome to the Community, CreativeManic. Does your school have a counselor you might talk to?

[CedarS]

If you get worried that she might be a danger to herself you can always ask the police to do a welfare check.

Any counseling resources for you at the college? You need help dealing with this.

My Mom went through really bad times too, so I can relate to what you are going through. Watching a parent be self destructive is horrible.

Is there any type of crisis hot line in the area? In some places they will do evaluations over the phone, suggest resources, and if need be come out to talk in person to the one in crisis.

Does whoever is prescribing her meds know about all this?

Welcome to the Community and you are definitely in the right place.