[Kangels3287]

My ex and I were to married last summer, we had been living together for a year. Long story show he got cold feet and we broke up. I was so sad and depressed. That was the beginning of my nightmare. He kept coming back on and off for the next year. Everytime he would tell me to be patient that he would quit running and be with me! The last time I saw him, he was going to tell the girl he was seeing that it was over and he wanted to marry me!! I was so happy! I texted him once a day after that, telling him how much I loved him and if he told the other girl, I got a nasty message from telling me I was being too pushy!! I feel so bad now. Was I being that pushy? He married her 3 months later, he text me and told me when they got engaged and he emailed to tell me he was married. The most creepy thing about this, the plans he did with her was exactly what we had planned. Going to Vegas to get married, keeping my place and renting it, even down to planting a garden! Is this wierd that he would do the same plans with someone else or am I just envious? I feel so used, betrayed and lonely! I have tried to date but I can't seem to even find another man attractive. I have never felt like this. I am 53yrs old and he is 49yrs old. I feel like my idenity has been tampered with, I am so hurt and confused!

[Soul Quake]

Then find your identity before dating again. You are thinking about this man way too much. His fickle behavior has been going on for over a year.

Do yourself a favor by partaking in healthy, distracting activities.

[Yoda]

It sounds like he has some issues. Hard as it may feel right now I suspect that you are better off without him and wonder how long his marriage will last.

[IceCreamKid]

I think you dodged a bullet. Who knows how many times this man has married? If you are looking for a serious relationship, you might want to try a matchmaking service or introductions from friends, and take if very slow. Anyone who seems off, insincere, disrespectful or not what he says he is, stop seeing him. Don't let anyone move in with you until you're married and don't marry anyone until you know their complete personal history.