[palemoss]

so i have been seeing a guy who very recently just ended his on/off relationship of 4 years with a girl.

on our first date he said things like, "i still love her but she is so dramatic," "i prefer blondes..."

third date we got a little drunk and revealed that he "welled up during a song [bc it reminded him of the end of a relationship - and "lost love"]"

we've been out a few times, and i feel like he really likes me. but i told him i don't want to be a rebound. he has called me to explain and ease my assumptions twice. but i don't know if i believe him. he said he's been wanting to get out of his relationship with this girl for 6 + months.

and prior to that (i've known him for 2 years), he has always denied having a girlfriend.

[arcangel]

So is this the cruel, vindictive guy who took revenge on you back in June/July? The same guy who you hoped would break up with his gf for you?
If you go back and read your posts I think you'll find your answers there.

[moonbeam2]

i think if the love is strong enough,time will heal all wounds so you both can figure out what to do ,to jump into something to soon can be disasterious for something that can be good in the future ,so take your time !

[SakuraLi]

In my opinion, don't believe him!! Guys with issues suck! I've been with my bf for 8 years and he has issues, hell I have issues too. But I can advise anyone to not stick with these kind of relationships because each person ultimately loses. Me and my bf are working on our problems but no one should go this route for years of hell just to get to a point of wellness and emotional wholeness. You could do that on your own. As women we often want guys to like us and if it's an unhealthy guy that likes us we usually pay the price. It's not worth any guy liking us if it causes emotional or mental and any other type of damage. Be encouraged, stay strong. Try to walk away!

Originally Posted by palemoss

so i have been seeing a guy who very recently just ended his on/off relationship of 4 years with a girl.

on our first date he said things like, "i still love her but she is so dramatic," "i prefer blondes..."

third date we got a little drunk and revealed that he "welled up during a song [bc it reminded him of the end of a relationship - and "lost love"]"

we've been out a few times, and i feel like he really likes me. but i told him i don't want to be a rebound. he has called me to explain and ease my assumptions twice. but i don't know if i believe him. he said he's been wanting to get out of his relationship with this girl for 6 + months.

and prior to that (i've known him for 2 years), he has always denied having a girlfriend.

[Flooded]

PM, cut your losses. Don't set yourself up for disappointment.

[SakuraLi]

May I point out that time doesn't heal wounds. I think atonement and reconciliation may only heal wounds if the guy is sincere about it. Just my opinion though.

Originally Posted by moonbeam2

i think if the love is strong enough,time will heal all wounds so you both can figure out what to do ,to jump into something to soon can be disasterious for something that can be good in the future ,so take your time !

[IceCreamKid]

I think you are being played and you are worth way more than that.