[wifeofbipolar0818]

My husband and I have been trying to have children for 3 years now. He suffers from bipolar and I have depression. I was hospitalized 4 years ago for it, but have generally been able to control it with meds. My husband is currently going through a rapid cycle to the point where he has told me that though he loves me, he can't promise me he won't hurt himself. I have always known that chances are that our children would have some type of mental health issue, which I wrestled with but I was okay with because it is not the end of the world. However, this particular episode of my husband has scared the crap out of me. I am now wondering if we should have biological children, knowing that our child (ren) could end up in the same state my husband is currently in or worse.

[Leed]

You know, even if neither one of you had issues, your children STILL could end up with mental problems. I'm not sure that it makes any difference, but I would talk with my medical doctor and get his thoughts on this. It would be a shame to be childless if you REALLY want children -- although you could adopt. But there again, a child could still have issues.

I wish you the very best. God bless & good luck. Hugs, Lee