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I was once told that we chose our friends that are like our parents. Example females will pick a friend that is a lot like their mother or female guardian and the same with men that they will pick male friends like their fathers or male guardian. I say this cause my only friend shows a lot of traits like my mother, she is toxic a lot towards me and puts a lot of blame on me, she can do no wrong and wants the attention only on her. She is not a alcoholic like my mother she just will never admit to doing wrong. She always blames me, she is toxic.
Anyway, do you all believe that we chose friends that are like our parents or guardians cause that is all we know? |
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Great question!
Perhaps we are often drawn to people similar to our parents because that is our "comfort zone". We already know how to interact with those type of people. But, to be truly healthy and happy, we need to learn how to build friendships with the people who represent the type of person we want to be. That can be quite uncomfortable at first, but so much better in the long run. ![]()
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Someone once said that the great struggle of life was being torn between the need to escape the relationship patterns from your childhood that you keep repeating and the need to maintain what feels familiar to you. How profound.
I experience the recreation of old relationship patterns all the time, and knowing this has given me the awareness to recognize when it's happening and get out. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to go about healthier relationships so experience a lot of anxiety when getting close to others who would probably be good for me. So, I am probably going to be alone for a while. |
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Is it possible we do this for friends too... absolutely!!!
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