[sad_1]

Is yelling at your spouse domestic violence?
what about trowing things around the home?
how bad does it have to get before you should call the police?

thanks for your help

[nothemama8]

Yelling at ones spouse is possible mental abuse, throwing things is domestic and if object hits person deff. call police

[Xeneon]

Anytime that you feel that you are in danger...call the cops. Don't hesitate!!!

Hello, sad_1.

http://psychcentral.com/library/domestic_sx.htm
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/sel...-relationship/
http://psychcentral.com/dvquiz.htm
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...omestic-abuse/
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/ste...stic-violence/

Would you like to talk about what is going on sweety?I am sorry that you feel under this storm cloud.I notice you aren't saying too much,but,you are safe here.

[madisgram]

physical abuse to another is never, ever acceptable.
emotional abuse can be just as harmful but in another form.
only you can decide but it doesn't sound like this is a healthy relationship, nor safe.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by sad_1

Is yelling at your spouse domestic violence?
what about trowing things around the home?
how bad does it have to get before you should call the police?

thanks for your help

In general each country, state...location has their own rules and domestic violence laws.

if you are here in the USA spouses yelling at each other "in general" is not considered domestic violence, domestic disturbance if the neighbors can hear the spouses having a fight.. basically all married couples have their times when they yell at each other, throw things and stomp around slam things and sometimes even punching walls, breaking dishes and other items.

in general here in the USA it becomes domestic violence when one spouse is abusing the other with violence (the husband throwing things at the wife, husband punching hitting kicking the wife, using verbal threats and insults against the wife) I use husband as the perpetrator here in this post but husbands are not always the abuser. there are women abusing their husbands too.

when should you call the police.. any time you need or want to. the police are there to be helpful and enforce safety and the laws. the police here in my city would rather people call on them and the situation turn out to be nothing than to not call on them and end up dead.

you can also call your police department and they can tell you what is considered domestic violence in your area and culture.

you can also call the national domestic violence hotline. they too can help you find out what is covered in your locations domestic violence laws. their website with all the information is at http://www.thehotline.org/

[carla37]

let me ask you this??? are you scared to comfront him about his action. in other words, you dont no what his reaction will be. )eggshells( this is a tell tale sign. eggshell walking is precence, in everyones daily life. b ut if it is viloent, non coropertive , and you feel like its causeing harm to you emotionally or phycialy the its not a good sign. I think everyone takes a step back to other people reactions, it fairly normal but if It is hurting someone, it wrong,,, k hope you can work this out,

[etdsinger]

Domestic Violence can be deemed as anything that causes emotional or physical duress inflicted from another person.

A spouse, significant other, parent, guardian, etc... is mentally abusive/demeaning, physically abusive or threatening, sexually abusive or threatening.

If someone loves you, they should lift you up, not tear you down. Remember that you can't turn that behavior around by yourself. Take it from me, having been there....I was a very strong emotional person with a ton of self esteem, and all that negativity got the best of me....I lost "me" until I got out. Seek some professional help and understand the warning signs of domestic violence

EYE H8 DV!

[Rose76]

I did call the police when my S.O. made a statement that I know is illegal to say. They came and they spoke to us both together and separately. I thought they handled the visit well. They told him that "freedom of speech" has limitations. They told him that, if I called them again to report the same statement, he would be taken into custody. They told me that they were glad to advice us both of our legal rights and responsibilities. Then they told me that it sounded like I needed to be working on a more long range solution to my problem, which they could not provide. I agreed with them and I thanked them. It took me, maybe over 6 months, but I did arrange to live separately from him. Odd as it might sound, we are still very close.

There were no children involved. I never felt in physical danger. I was being emotionally beat down by cruel taunts. Then one day he crossed the legal limit on free speech. Even though I did not feel in physical danger, I thought I had the right to ask the police to come by. I have great respect and admiration for how they responded. I think it stopped the emotional abuse from escalating.

It is kind of strange that we have continued a friendship now that we live separately. I think, if we were both younger, I would have made a clean break. My experience in life, which I offer for what it is worth, is that people who show you a lot of disrespect are very unlikely to ever change. I wish it were otherwise.