[LoveHopeStrength14]

Deal breakers
1) Constant insecurity about himself and about life
2) Undependable/flaky
3) Only puts himself first
4) Drug use in the last 2 years from the moment I met them
5) Current drug use
6) Smokes
7) Drinking problem
8) Stuck in their years of going to clubs and bars
9) Have Kids = I can be flexible depending how complicated their situation
10) Doesn’t like dogs and not willing to be flexible
11) Animal abuser
12) Unemployed
13) Not a stable job/career and/or education
14) Violent history
15) Are not financially responsible
16) Doesn’t want to have kids
17) Mean spirited
18) Laziness
19) Lost passion in life
20) Negative about life
21) Doesn’t take care of their health such as in weight – obese
22) Poor Hygiene
23) Hothead
24) Rude
25) Jealousy
26) Not affectionate
27) Too soon after last relationship
28) Needy
29) Won’t accept my health
30) Will not support me in my educational goals

[salukigirl]

What you describe just sounds like an overall decent man and I don't consider that outrageous at all. All of these things are behaviors/responsibilities you should have developed by the time you are an adult. Sounds like a good list to me.

The dog and kids issues seem to be the only things that I might consider negotiable. Everything else, spot on. Be firm, don't compromise. I wouldn't want anyone with any of those traits/habits in my life.

[missbelle]

They all sound like someone I definately do not want....and a person I love better be an animal lover! Thats a given..#19 I could deal with I think!.. and 21 is ????..a maybe

[alliwantislove]

they all seem reasonable just b sure that they are realistic. and remember no one is perfect and everyone has flaws

[CantExplain]

That's quite a list you have there - thirty items!

First, lets see if I qualify

Originally Posted by LoveHopeStrength14

Deal breakers
1) Constant insecurity about himself and about life
10) Doesn’t like dogs and not willing to be flexible
16) Doesn’t want to have kids
20) Negative about life
21) Doesn’t take care of their health such as in weight – obese
28) Needy

Nope. I had five black marks when I married and about three of them now. (My depression is cured but I've got fatter. I changed my mind about kids but not about dogs.)

OK, so you're looking for a man who is better than me. There's going to be a lot of competition for a man like that!

None of your items is unreasonable in itself, but thirty? I think you ask too much!