[Dreamerzzz]

Mostly about my stepfather...Dont know exactly how to explain it so this is going to sound stupid....but really need to talk and vent...so the thing is I watch my baby sister all the time pretty much without getting paid...shes my mom and stepfathers baby...and I dont mind watching her cause shes amazing and love her sooo much...anyway mom and my stepfather got into an argument last night outside...I couldnt really hear what they were saying...but then my step father walks in the house and im sitting on the couch and he tells me to go upstairs and get the ***** out of his face so I grabbed my shoes and walked out and walked to my cousins house...I'm there for ten minutes and get a text saying get home now we need to talk...so i go home like 10 minutes later and he doesn't even talk until the 3rd time i ask if hes going to say what he wants to say...which was a hour or so after i got home...Anyway he finally started talking and says "I just want Isabella to go over my mothers 2 times a week or so, so she has more of a good influence...not saying your a bad influence cause I know you love her alot, but I want her with my family more...cause your half your mothers and half Mikes(my biological father who i've never really had a relationship with...sensitive subject) so I feel out numbered...if you were my kid id feel different but your not my kid."...seems stupid that im upset about this...i know. But for some reason it really hit me hard last night(didn't let him know that though...I acted like i was fine till i got in the shower and broke-down)...I've always pretty much taken care of myself...Mom wasnt around much when i was a kid (from ages 7-9) so my brothers and i took care of ourselves (there 2yrs and 4yrs older than me...) I ended up in foster care at 9 (I went to 4 different homes in a 2 year period) Then I moved to my mentally abusive grandparent for 4 years, till my mom and i worked stuff out and i moved in with my mom stepfather and older brother in may of 2010...my brother got in trouble and my stepfather kicked him out and he lives with my grandmother on our fathers side now...anyway...need some advise...I want to leave, but cant leave my baby sister...HELP me get through this please

[alliwantislove]

wow ur stepdad is a jerk sorry to say. some adults act more immature than a child. some parents shouldnt b blessed with kids. youve had it pretty rough. is there anyone else you can live with that u know u will b at peace? how is the relationship with ur mother now? how old are you? dont let people like him bring you down its ok to feel down who wouldnt with what uve been through. b strong keep ur head up. do u believe in karma? hang in there

i hope u feel better and there is a solution

[Dreamerzzz]

Originally Posted by alliwantislove

wow ur stepdad is a jerk sorry to say. some adults act more immature than a child. some parents shouldnt b blessed with kids. youve had it pretty rough. is there anyone else you can live with that u know u will b at peace? how is the relationship with ur mother now? how old are you? dont let people like him bring you down its ok to feel down who wouldnt with what uve been through. b strong keep ur head up. do u believe in karma? hang in there

i hope u feel better and there is a solution

I have a couple places I could go, but I would hate to leave my baby sister (shes 8 months.) Im 16...My mother and I dont get along except once in a blue moon...I'm just not talking to my stepfather and havent talked to him since this happened

[ohlala]

My heart is aching for you. After all that you've been through your heart is filled with love and caring for the baby. You are a magnificent human being! Please give an update as to how this is working out for you. Do you go to school? Are you going to graduate soon? What subjects do you like? Do you have a school counselor you can confide in? Is there any adult or relative that you are close to that you can confide in about this situation? Please give an update on your situation. I care, we care. Come to this forum so you can express yourself and get the support you need.

[OurLadysTears]

That is messed up with what he said to you! I could understand if he wanted someone older to watch her, but to say that he wants an influence from someone other than you because you are not his child is messed up. It is like he is trying to put you on the outside of the family. I have no good advice, but I can definitely say that you are no way in the wrong in this situation.