[lexie86]

Do you think i will ever hear from him again?

nine days ago my ex boyfriend, though we are still friends and still love one another, just a couple of weeks ago he said he would still want to be with me romantically, kiss me etc. And that if he could it would just be him and me without all the complications.

After not hearing anything for four days, i sent him serveral messages called him no answer just total shutdown, so i sent him a text saying that i wish him well and hope life treats him kindly and that i was going to leave him be, i left a voice messages saying that i was always his friend and he was never mine, and said some other things.

On that Tuesday i recieved a reply:
It said dear Me: I realise that you think i have dissed you! and you hate my guts, and yes still alive, but i am in a terrible place and have needed to be by myself, and you were right it is just me. I do look now and realise that i should have just said i needed space insted of shutting you out. yes that is my bad and i will wear it. I understand you letting me go as all i seem to do is hurt you, im not proud that i have done it. I also guess that four days can change a persons feelings unfortunately i dont have that ability. so i hope life gives you a good go as well, you are beautiful and have alot to offer the world. i would like to think that i was your friend but looking back that is hard to say.

love him

ps rememeber you are a good no great person who offers everything and who doesnt expect anything in return! and you have so much to live for and who know we may cross roads once again ( i saw him on the WK).

I have called him alot over the past 9 days, left voice messages and i sent a text back to him and got nothing, apologising and that i still wanted to be his friend, and that i love him and he can call me if he needs help etc. So that is about three or 4 texts.

So why has'nt he texted back, will he ever talk to me again? Or is he still sticking to the fact that he needs to be by himself, but does he still want me in his life and how can i know if he wont text back.
help me, im so miserable im crying all the time and dont know if i can go on. im obsessing over him and it is not good im so messed up.

The things he is stressed over include, not being able to see his children, the possibilty of going to jail therefore losing job and house etc, and he is currently separated from his wife so i would assume he is going through the grief associated with this etc. It is a extremely complicated situation.
(some of you guys already no the story) and will be upset that i even care, but can someone please me objective.

[roads]

Umm ... No, he's got other stuff, if you call him your ex it's pretty sure he thinks of himself that way. Guys do pretty quickly. He's moved on, I'd say, from what you've said + his note. Unless...

Unless he needs you for something, or needs something from you. He wants you to remember, doesn't he, that "you are a good no great person who offers everything and who doesnt expect anything in return!"

You're torturing yourself with this. I don't know the rest of this story, but I hope you'll be good to yourself & get over him so you can be ready for a guy who's ready for a good woman.

But stop expecting nothing. You have the right to expect to be treated decently & to be given respect, always.

[Perna]

It does not look like the two of you will be able to maintain a relationship at this time; each of you saying goodbye and then trying to continue on with texts, emails, responses after you have called it quits. That's crazy-making as neither of you is on the other person's wavelength; there does not appear to be a common ground anymore.