[Anderson2011]

I have been having an affair with a married woman for over 7 years. I really thought that this was love by the way this woman treated me at the start of the affair. I had just got out of an 8 year relationship with my HS sweatheart that i had a baby with at the time and she was married and had one child by him. Over the next year things was all well she was going to leave him and we where going to be together. By the second year of this affair she got preg. and i told her not to keep the child because it was a possibilty it was his child and also we really needed to get to know one another. During her preg we kind of didn't speak as much but kept in touch. I knew the child was mine the features and i have a blood disorder that she carried. She told me that she got preg because she wanted a child by me but at the same time i said u could of waited and if things got really serious then we could of had a child
We started back talking & thinking about being together/child situation. She didn't tell her husband that she was not his daughter. During this period I really wanted use to be together and I also wanted my daughter in my life. I had the opportunity to spend alot of time with my daughter during her first few years. We would have a series where i would say look u need to let this man know that she is my daughter. Now that i think about it she played mind games with me during this period also. We would talk and she would say that her husband could take better care of her and also that since they are married having both parents in the house is good. I opened up to her and told her how much i loved her and wanted to be in my child life. She told me that she wouldn't take her from me. Once she started talking I wasn't able to speak to her or see her it went from seeing her to getting pictures of her or hearing her in the back ground to showing up at places she is at. I accepted this all because i loved her and i felt like i was at fault and i didn't want to ruin her life with her husband and also i started believe the stuff she said. Now we have possibly 3 kids together (the one she just had claim its not mine but he looks just like my son). I know who in there right mind can be so stupid...ME....but what no one seem to understand is that this story is killing me....Currently I am depressed and I am still in love with this woman who seem to be playing game with my heart. Now she seem to not care about how i feel about anything when i speak about how i feel she say "OK" like it means nothing to her. She don't think i should have a relationship with my kids...and in a way it would be hard being that i don't have the money to support them as i would like....I wish i could hit the lottery and just be a exceptional father and someone husband...but i really think all of it is out the window for me...I don't think a sane woman would want a man with so many issues....so I am at a cross road now should i just try to get joint custody of my kids or should i just let it be and try to move on....the moving on is so hard because i still love this woman even though i know she is playing mind games with me...about everything just so she can be happy.

[Anderson2011]

I really need some advice concerning this matter....i am really at a cross road...and being that it's close to the holidays do not make this matter any better

[Anderson2011]

I have been having an affair with a married woman for over 7 years. I really thought that this was love by the way this woman treated me at the start of the affair. I had just got out of an 8 year relationship with my HS sweatheart that i had a baby with at the time and she was married and had one child by him. Over the next year things was all well she was going to leave him and we where going to be together. By the second year of this affair she got preg. and i told her not to keep the child because it was a possibilty it was his child and also we really needed to get to know one another. During her preg we kind of didn't speak as much but kept in touch. I knew the child was mine the features and i have a blood disorder that she carried. She told me that she got preg because she wanted a child by me but at the same time i said u could of waited and if things got really serious then we could of had a child
We started back talking & thinking about being together/child situation. She didn't tell her husband that she was not his daughter. During this period I really wanted use to be together and I also wanted my daughter in my life. I had the opportunity to spend alot of time with my daughter during her first few years. We would have a series where i would say look u need to let this man know that she is my daughter. Now that i think about it she played mind games with me during this period also. We would talk and she would say that her husband could take better care of her and also that since they are married having both parents in the house is good. I opened up to her and told her how much i loved her and wanted to be in my child life. She told me that she wouldn't take her from me. Once she started talking I wasn't able to speak to her or see her it went from seeing her to getting pictures of her or hearing her in the back ground to showing up at places she is at. I accepted this all because i loved her and i felt like i was at fault and i didn't want to ruin her life with her husband and also i started believe the stuff she said. Now we have possibly 3 kids together (the one she just had claim its not mine but he looks just like my son). I know who in there right mind can be so stupid...ME....but what no one seem to understand is that this story is killing me....Currently I am depressed and I am still in love with this woman who seem to be playing game with my heart. Now she seem to not care about how i feel about anything when i speak about how i feel she say "OK" like it means nothing to her. She don't think i should have a relationship with my kids...and in a way it would be hard being that i don't have the money to support them as i would like....I wish i could hit the lottery and just be a exceptional father and someone husband...but i really think all of it is out the window for me...I don't think a sane woman would want a man with so many issues....so I am at a cross road now should i just try to get joint custody of my kids or should i just let it be and try to move on....the moving on is so hard because i still love this woman even though i know she is playing mind games with me...about everything just so she can be happy.