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Jan 12, 2012, 02:17 PM
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is there a way to get it back? I mean really? once it is gone it's gone right? I have tried everything. so tired of it all.
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Jan 12, 2012, 03:43 PM
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Get it back with the same person, or get it back with anyone at all?
Either way, I don't think you can say for sure whether it can come back in any given situation. The complexity of human emotion knows no bounds and constantly surprises. |
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Jan 12, 2012, 04:32 PM
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(((bebop)))
It usually takes two to re-kindle emotional intimacy. It can feel awkward and forced at times, on "off" days. Sometimes, it can feel like that all of the time! Those are times that I believe we need some team assistance. Where we go in to see a T, together, and get back onto the same page. If the other person in the relationship is seriously unwilling to try professional help, try going by yourself to get a better handle on things happening in your world. Hopefully, your partner will notice the improvements with you and will want to be part of that. If not, that's when you have to start coming to terms with a relationship needs both people to be present emotionally. One person can't do it all alone. That's when the relationship has become a serious job, with one person doing all of the work and reaping no benefits. I hope that this isn't where you find yourself, bebop. It is a sad and bumpy road ~ but there is a road.  Gentle hugs to you...
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Jan 12, 2012, 06:27 PM
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I believe that emotional intimacy can be rekindled if there is still a spark of trust and love left... of course I agree with *Shez* that it takes 2 to tango in the dance of life.
I recently had an almost 2 week stretch of "rough" waters with my BEST friend of 4 1/2 years. The first in our relationship when I was 99% at my breaking point and almost said to heck with him. He finally snapped out of his "provoking irritability" (which was resulting in my knee-jerk responses back) and called the next morning to tell me he was sorry and we have been treading a little water but we are going to make it. Things between us are different now but we both have raised up the feelings of respect for one another and this is essential (respect). All the best to you *bebop* !  Shalom 
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