[thisbe.flynn]

we've been in this relationship for a while now and we're ready to get married. i recently found out that he isn't as sexually attracted to me as he was to some of his prior girlfriends. I know that he loves me a lot and has never felt this way about anyone before. but shudn't that mean he shud be more attracted to me as well regardless of whether I'm physically sexier than them or not? Or is that completely delusional? I don't know what to do..plz help

[needfixing]

who told you that he's not sexually attracted to you like he was to prior girlfriends? what a hurtful thing to say.
but on the other hand he is marrying you, so maybe the jerk that told you that is jealous.
ignore ignore ignore

[Leed]

Did HE tell you that he was more attracted to prior girlfriends? If he did, that was a cruel thing to say! If someone else told you this, I agree with needfixing -- IGNORE!

Since he wants to marry you, obviously he loves you. You don't say how old he is, but men reach their sexual "peak" between the age of 18 & 21, from what I've read. After that it begins to wane -- but not all men are alike. And you sure can't believe everything you read anyway. LOL

If your physical relationship has been satisfactory up until now, I wouldn't worry about it. Get married, and be happy! God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[thisbe.flynn]

this started off as a discussion on fantasies n he told me that he didnt have sensual fantasies about me. then moved on to how me exercising more would b gud 4 my health and dat it'd attract him more to me.I'm not fat n am rather obsesd abt weight loss n gain.i askd him if that means he was more attracted to his gfs hu had banging hot bodies..he said yes because they maintain themselves.he says sex isnt that important 2 him anyway!! we're in our late 20s, this can't b normal can it?!!!!this is wat the end of marriages r supposed 2 b like, not beginning of relationships.

[mazing]

If you are both ready and wanting to get married I wouldn't worry about it. As long as you love each other it shouldn't mean anything

[needfixing]

when a man loves a woman weight shouldn't be a problem.

[jaguar2012]

The fact that he is marrying you is much more important than him being sexually attracted to you.Did he say this to you, did you hear it from someone else or is it an assumption?This will make all the difference.If someone else said it ignore it.You don't need that negativity especially starting a marriage.If you're assuming this you should sit and talk to him.Communication is going to play a huge role in the success of ya'lls marriage.Much luck to you and him.Make sure you have no doubts before commiting to him.I think it will work out for you though.Stay positive.

[Suki22]

I'm seeing red flags about how you should be excercising more/maintaining yourself more. He shouldn't be that critical of you. It should be for better or for worse and if he's already telling you how to be, then that's really not cool. he should love you in whatever form you may be in. you two may want to do some pre-marrital counseling to make sure you're both on the same page and make sure there are no doubts for either of you before getting married.

[needfixing]

the weight issue if for any reason its effecting your health than seek professional help.