[thunderbear]

Ok so you all know bout my bro in law Nathan. Well he is constantly favored over my husband by my in laws and grandparent n law. The parents gave the grandparents custody of the "boys" the day after my husband was born and Nathan was 4 ys old. athe parents moved to TX. But when Nathan was sick at anytime, they flew or drove 12 hours to here to be by his side. My husband had been hosptalized alot as a kid due to asthma but they never came. In his first 12 years the mom only seen him 5 times. The dad seen him but only when he was pickin up Nathan. When me j my husband were dating, he lived with the grandparents cuz he just moved back from livin in MS for 5 ys. I was not allowed to stay over. Even when my eye swelled shut from cellulitis and my husband took me 2 the er, i had to drive myself home with one eye. Cuz the grandfather busted down the bedroom door and started callin me a *****. Nathan moved is gf of 2 days in later that week and they accepted her right off and she was their best friend the whole 3 months she was around. When the guys were kids Nathan got all brand new stuff for christmases. My husband got used things from his friends parents cuz the grandparents spent all the xmas $ on Nathan. Its still like that. We live next door to the grandparents and my husbands best friend of 25 ys got down on his luck so he crashed on our cuch for a week or 2. The grandfather came over our house and tried to kick our guest out of OUR house. But nathan was cooking methh in the garage and had all kinds of skanky drug people in and out all hours da & night and i got yelled at by the grandfather because I told Nathan I didnt want those nasty people in my yard. Cuz they would get doped out tweakin and wonder around in my yard rite outside my bedrm wndow. Cuz they were NATHANS friends. Even tho the grandparents knew what was goin on in that garage. Nathan & his gf Shel live with the grandparents. Of course thats NATHANS gf so she moved rite in within days of meeting Nathan. And shes their best friend. And because of Nathans jealousy they dont even talk to me if Nathan and her are at the house. Them 2 both have a vehicle a piece that run but the grandparents freely hand them the keys to run all nite in their cars cuz Nathan says his truck looks like a piece of crap cuz its primer grey and hes embarrased by it. Our car ran hot at the end of the driveway this mornin so we borrowed grandmas car to run up j pay our elect bill before they cut it off. We were gone for about 1 hr when we got back my husband got cussed for bein gone so long. Now the grandparents arent talkin to niether one of us but they took Nathan and his gf j his kids out to eat. Didnt even invite us. I could care less about an invite i dont like them people but it hurt my husbands feelings that he weeded their sidewalk & cleaned the trash that those brats of my bro n laws thro in the yard and didnt get a thank you or acknowladgement but they go have a family night without him. Just like last month. My husband hadnt seen his dad in 6 months. He wont have anything to do with my husband. But Nathan was away 4 a wee workin anwe walk in next door and they have a little welcome home thing and there sit my father in law laughin havin a good time. He completely ignored my husband till he said "I live rite across the f***ing driveway and you cant even come see me" his dad said "F**k you" Thats how it is with my husband and his brother. Nathan cusses them old people and does nothing to help them. He drinks sleeps and eats pain pills. And yet the sunshine shines out of his *** and they treat my husband like he's a piece of s**t. Im about to give them a piece of my mind if they keep this up. 11 years of watching them break my husband down. I've had enough of it.

[Leed]

Why on earth did you move next door to these people? If I'd been the two of you, I'd have wanted to get as far away from them as I could!! Why stay where you get treated like this? Even if they own the house you're in, and you don't have to pay rent, is it WORTH IT???

Get the heck out of there and find a small apartment or something -- but get away. Don't stay where you have to SEE what's going on, or where you have to be treated like that. And it will serve NO purpose to go off on these people, because they will NOT change just because you lose your temper. People like that can't see where they're wrong.

Best of luck to you, and I hope you get moved soon -- You'll both be much happier! Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee