[Zoey101]

I cant seem to get along with my inlaws I just lost my dad a few months back and my inlaws. . .well I dont think they like me especially my boyfriends sister last summer she stole all of my clothes and everytime I try to talk to my boyfriend she cuts me off by talking to him she always says bad stuff about meh behind my back but she wont say it to me unless her big sister is around Im pregnant so I get moody sometimes what should I do???Im slowly losing patience with her. . .could she be jealous of me?? before I met my boyfriend he was really close with his sister. . .what do u guys think?

[Caretaker Leo]

Zoey, it sounds like there are a lot of changes in the family dynamics going on.

You just recently lost your dad and it is normal that you are going to feel up and down as you deal with your loss. (((hugs))) That, combined with the hormonal changes that come with pregnancy are likely to make this time tough for you.

The sisters - it sounds like they are still pretty young and perhaps have had a close relationship with their brother? Maybe they are afraid of losing the bond they have because you have become the most important woman in his life.

As a mom of 3, I can tell you that patience is something you will need to develop in leaps and bounds once you give birth. Now is your chance to practice. Take time to interact with your sisters to be. Get to know them in the same way that you would want them to know who you are. Ask them to talk honestly about their fears and their hopes about your marriage to their brother. Assure them that you aren't taking him away - only adding another "sister" to the family.

I hope some of what I've written will help you.

[Perna]

There's no "should" about her jealousy of you, she is. Like a little child whose mother has another child and they're no longer the baby, that is what has happened to her with her brother's attention. Try to be nice to her, practice how you'd like to be with people who are difficult; everyone always gets a couple of those in their lives.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Zoey101

I cant seem to get along with my inlaws I just lost my dad a few months back and my inlaws. . .well I dont think they like me especially my boyfriends sister last summer she stole all of my clothes and everytime I try to talk to my boyfriend she cuts me off by talking to him she always says bad stuff about meh behind my back but she wont say it to me unless her big sister is around Im pregnant so I get moody sometimes what should I do???Im slowly losing patience with her. . .could she be jealous of me?? before I met my boyfriend he was really close with his sister. . .what do u guys think?

How do you know your boyfriend's sister says bad stuff behind your back? Or do you mean she actually stands behind you and says bad things? I think you have something from her brother she will never have. Take the high road and ignore her nasty remarks and see if they taper off. If they don't you should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him his sister is annoying you and you don't intend to stand for it and he can either man up and stand up for you or you will stand up for yourself. Keep in mind that if you are not married to this man, these people aren't your in-laws, so you don't really owe any 'family loyalty' to a woman who isn't your family and who has a poor way of showing her love for her brother by abusing his girlfriend.