[hope54]

Hello so I just stumbled across this site after googling for info on how to deal with my newly founded trust issues with my bouyfriend of 2 years. We are both in out mid 20s and he recently told me that he kissed another girl after a drukin night out. Our relationship seemed almost perfect before this and we have always been open abd honest with each other. But I find my self totally parinoid and worried of it happening again espically since he told me last week and just left for a boys trip this week. He has apolgized perfusly but I can't seem to feel like I trust him. Am I over reacting over a kiss is this a confidence issue with in myself?

[roads]

Hey there, hope, and welcome to PsychCentral. Sorry for why you were googling, but I'm glad you found this site.

I would be feeling much more betrayed by your guy's excessive drinking--which is all that led to the kiss, right?--than by the kiss itself. I'd say both the health of your relationship as well as your own safety were both threatened by his drinking.

Even if this were the only such occasion, I would still worry more about the drinking. From what you say, without the alcohol in the picture the kiss wouldn't have happened.

His kissing another woman seems to be the issue because it stirs such high passions, but if he doesn't drink again is there any reason to think there would be another kissing incident?

Roadie

[IceCreamKid]

If I could give one piece of advice to people who post on this website, it would be this: people aren't perfect and neither are relationships. Mid-20s is young, young, young. While there are the occasional couples who meet in very early in life and live happily ever after, more often people have a few relationships of varying degrees of closeness before they vow (and really intend to stick to those vows) undying fidelity. You can really only control your behavior; but I would encourage you strongly to avoid committing to anyone who gets drunk or who is not ready to commit to you. Take your boyfriend's weekend out with his friends to decide what you want, realistically.