[Panda_Girl_17]

Alright, so first off, Im an insecure person myself.

And I was then questioned as to why I am insecure, from one of my guyfriends, (who I really like, and he knows that I like him).

My answer was "I know that isnt the best reason, but I actually dont know why."

And he got a little mad at me for not knowing why.

It really bothered that I dont know why Im insecure.

I've been thinking of reasons why I would be insecure. But I havent been that successful.

What are some reasons why someone would be insecure?

[Confusedinomicon]

I think you're insecure because you depend on others opinions of you to shape your self-confidence.

You feel better when the person you like, thinks highly of you.
Feel worse if whomever doesn't like you as much.

(This is from my observance of you)

I wish I had a solution but I don't know. Sorry.

[Panda_Girl_17]

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

I think you're insecure because you depend on others opinions of you to shape your self-confidence.

You feel better when the person you like, thinks highly of you.
Feel worse if whomever doesn't like you as much.

(This is from my observance of you)

I wish I had a solution but I don't know. Sorry.

I do that. But he then questioned me as to why I care about what people think of me. I couldnt answer that because I dont know.

[LiteraryLark]

Maybe it is because you are unsure of yourself and afraid of making the wrong choices or afraid of doing things that friends or family may disapprove of.

[iseepurple]

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

friends or family may disapprove of.

yea i agree, it has to do with disapproval and that you always look to other to see what they think all the time,

what might help :

you need to make yourself worthy of being right!, that your opinion can too be the one that influences people's thoughts...

here are some tips.

1) make a list of all the things inside that makes you a good person that is a leader!
not I am nice etc but stuff like
I am someone that people can count on to get a job done,
things to do with leadership

2) join a leadership society go to work shops

3) read the book " how to win friends and influence people" or any other leadership skills

PRACTISE
have a voice, and stick to it, remember opinion is never wrong but if you out something out there STICK TO IT

how do you think other people make you feel the way they want you to feel?
because they are good and
making you feel like " they are RIGHT and your opinion isn't wrong but theres is superior therefor its the only one that counts" so

you need to stick up for your self. and influence them, don't let them blab on for too long the more they talk, the you feel bad about yourself,

TAKE CHARGE!

hope that helped : )

[Panda_Girl_17]

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

Maybe it is because you are unsure of yourself and afraid of making the wrong choices or afraid of doing things that friends or family may disapprove of.

I am, but I dont know why. And thats what bothers me because I dont know. And I wanna know.

[Panda_Girl_17]

Originally Posted by iseepurple

yea i agree, it has to do with disapproval and that you always look to other to see what they think all the time,

what might help :

you need to make yourself worthy of being right!, that your opinion can too be the one that influences people's thoughts...

here are some tips.

1) make a list of all the things inside that makes you a good person that is a leader!
not I am nice etc but stuff like
I am someone that people can count on to get a job done,
things to do with leadership

2) join a leadership society go to work shops

3) read the book " how to win friends and influence people" or any other leadership skills

PRACTISE
have a voice, and stick to it, remember opinion is never wrong but if you out something out there STICK TO IT

how do you think other people make you feel the way they want you to feel?
because they are good and
making you feel like " they are RIGHT and your opinion isn't wrong but theres is superior therefor its the only one that counts" so

you need to stick up for your self. and influence them, don't let them blab on for too long the more they talk, the you feel bad about yourself,

TAKE CHARGE!

hope that helped : )

Thanks for the sugestions!

[DespondentDaisy]

Well first off you like a guy, that alone would be something that might make you insecure, because you unconciously are worried about rejection or embarrassing yourself in front of him. Secondly, you're a teenager. There will be a lot of first experinces for you now but once you've been there done that, so to speak, things won't make you nervous as much . . hopefully.

[Panda_Girl_17]

Originally Posted by DespondentDaisy

Well first off you like a guy, that alone would be something that might make you insecure, because you unconciously are worried about rejection or embarrassing yourself in front of him. Secondly, you're a teenager. There will be a lot of first experinces for you now but once you've been there done that, so to speak, things won't make you nervous as much . . hopefully.

Well he has told me several of times that he doesnt care. But we spend a lot of time telling each other about how we feel.