[Sadness2011]

It's been a few weeks since my "friend" asked me to dinner and apologized for being "a jerk" as he put it, then turned back into that jerk as soon as my back was turned. I'm not devastated and sad like I first was, now I'm just hurt and ANGRY!! I want to go back up there, look him in the eye and tell him to his face what I think about the dismissive, icy, COWARDLY way he treated me after our dinner together. Why would you accept the letter from me after I TOLD YOU that it came from the heart if you had NO intention of reading it? I wasn't trying to change his mind as he said, I was just TRYING to be honest and put it out there! I'm angry, disgusted, disappointed and hurt by the lack of concern and respect for my feelings and I just can't let it go!! Any suggestions?

[SSaysRelapse]

I'm sorry he has made you feel this way. I'm kind of in the same situation, except I'm in your role and she's the "jerk". There are several reasons for why he may be acting this way, but whatever it may be, remember that you may never end up knowing what that reason is. He could be hurting as well, for the same reasons as you or something completely unrelated. He could just be that type of person, that feeds off the emotions of others to feel better about themselves. Or it could be a combination of both, or something completely different.

We cannot help how our heart feels. But sometimes it just needs a break. It doesn't mean you care about the person any less, nor that you want to let go. But it needs time to heal, or else it'll taste the bitterness or resentment that a heart has trouble ever letting go of.

[Perna]

You are the one holding on; it is not "glued" to your fingers. You have to change how you view the situation. You cannot make him care, make him be what you would like. His not reading the letter does not make you less honest, less a good person; believing that is giving him the power to judge you. But believing you can make him be concerned and respectful of your feelings is trying to give yourself more power than you have; you only have power over yourself and your actions, not anyone else.

[Sadness2011]

Thanks very much for talking me down from my rant.
I am okay now, I just wish I knew what someone did to him to make him react the way he does to me now. He's always been bad about staying in contact, but he was NEVER deliberately thoughtless and cruel like he is now. Ah well, moving on now.